Jman888 Moderator July 30, 2014 Share July 30, 2014 Till differences and affairs do us part... Samantha Boh My Paper Wednesday, Jul 30, 2014 Separate ways: Marriage counsellors and lawyers say the stigma once attached to divorce is fading, and there is more awareness on how to obtain one. This makes it easier to call it quits. As old barriers against divorce break down, so do marriages, it seems. The latest statistics on marriage and divorce, released yesterday, seemed to bear this out. Last year, 7,525 couples got divorced or had their marriages annulled, a 4 per cent increase from the year before. Only once before, since 1990, have more marriages ended this way in a single year. Marriage counsellors and lawyers told My Paper the stigma once attached to divorce is fading, and there is more awareness on how to obtain one. These make it easier to call it quits. "People are more familiar with the term divorce as compared to 10 or 20 years ago, and have no qualms about getting one," said Iris Lin, senior social worker at Fei Yue Community Services. Richard Cheong, director of Hero Training & Consultancy, also noted that remarriage and single parenthood barely raise eyebrows now. The reasons most commonly cited for divorce in non-Muslim marriages were unreasonable behaviour, and having separated or lived apart for three years or more. Muslim marriages, meanwhile, broke down mostly because of infidelity, followed by financial problems and desertion. Extramarital affairs are no longer just committed by husbands, said Tan Soh Hiang, a counselling manager at Focus on the Family Singapore. "Increasingly, we see affairs being indulged in by wives. So now it's from both sides, which could explain the rising divorce rates," she said. And while the lack of knowledge on how to get a divorce might have held people back in the past, family lawyer Lee Terk Yang noted that many can now turn to free legal clinics for advice. "People are now more aware of their legal rights," he said. Marriage counsellors also pointed to the growing independence of women as a possible reason for the higher divorce numbers. Women are more financially independent now and no longer fight to save an unhappy marriage for the sake of security, said Ms Lin. "They are no longer at the losing end," she added. Out of the divorces that took place last year, two-thirds or 4,599 were initiated by women. The figures from the Department of Statistics also showed that there were 2,983 male divorcees aged 45 and above last year, the highest number for this age group since 1990. This group made up 42 per cent of male divorcees. Mr Cheong said this is due to couples delaying their divorces for their children's sake. "Then, when their kids are older and can handle a separation and divorce, they think there is no point holding on any longer," he said. The increase in divorces was also coupled by a 6 per cent fall in marriages, from 27,936 in 2012 to 26,254 last year. On whether the institution of marriage is eroding, marriage counsellors said people still believe in it but just do not work as hard to keep it intact. Ms Tan encourages couples to seek help the moment cracks appear, to nip the problem in the bud. "People entering marriage also need to set realistic expectations and not expect it to be problem-free," she added. Every year, more than a quarter of couple divorce. Good news is couples are getting marry at younger age but bad news is divorce also at earlier age. Years of marriage also get shorter before divorce. ↡ Advertisement 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickenfarm Turbocharged July 30, 2014 Share July 30, 2014 Lucky never say my chicken farms contributed to the rising divorce rates 5 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Watwheels Supersonic July 30, 2014 Share July 30, 2014 So eating out is common nowadays? 3 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickenfarm Turbocharged July 30, 2014 Share July 30, 2014 So eating out is common nowadays? People has been eating out...difference is, last time nobody do survey. And women back then were not financially independent, that's why not so gungho. 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Bear Turbocharged July 30, 2014 Share July 30, 2014 So eating out is common nowadays? Dabao go home tends to be very messy 3 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jman888 Moderator July 30, 2014 Author Share July 30, 2014 Lucky never say my chicken farms contributed to the rising divorce rates your chicken farm has always been one of the culprits Dabao go home tends to be very messy not fresh and must clean up 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chickenfarm Turbocharged July 30, 2014 Share July 30, 2014 your chicken farm has always been one of the culprits Didn't we say we must have a culture of "inclusiveness"??? 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Watwheels Supersonic July 30, 2014 Share July 30, 2014 women charter belly powderfoo It could be since now women know that law is on their side. Divorce is chicken feet to them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamesc Hypersonic July 30, 2014 Share July 30, 2014 Men are dumb, when my friends have affairs their wives always knows or suspects. When my female friends have affairs, their husbands never know. 3 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whathefish 5th Gear July 30, 2014 Share July 30, 2014 Every year, more than a quarter of couple divorce. Good news is couples are getting marry at younger age but bad news is divorce also at earlier age. Years of marriage also get shorter before divorce. they should break down into different races too...then again someone somewhere will complain..racist..(not mature enough, touch on races means racist) this maybe a better way to find out the root of the problem. Different races have different culture . 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ryu 5th Gear July 30, 2014 Share July 30, 2014 It could be since now women know that law is on their side. Divorce is chicken feet to them. They are more financially independent compared to last time so may not think twice or thrice before initiating or agreeing to a divorce. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sosaria Turbocharged July 30, 2014 Share July 30, 2014 I think this trend follows from the fact that more young married couples are choosing not to have kids. Without kids, there's little to hold back from divorce. With kids, each might think twice about how they can cope if the kids are in their custody. 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jman888 Moderator July 30, 2014 Author Share July 30, 2014 Men are dumb, when my friends have affairs their wives always knows or suspects. When my female friends have affairs, their husbands never know. men are slow in sense, women has very strong six sense 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamesc Hypersonic July 30, 2014 Share July 30, 2014 I think the reason fewer people are getting married is the quality of condoms is getting better. Now they dun break so easily, no kid coming so no need to get married like my time. 3 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Watwheels Supersonic July 30, 2014 Share July 30, 2014 Men are dumb, when my friends have affairs their wives always knows or suspects. When my female friends have affairs, their husbands never know. It's like that wan what. Men are dumb and women insecure. If they are perfect dan there wouldn't be any divorce. 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jman888 Moderator July 30, 2014 Author Share July 30, 2014 they should break down into different races too...then again someone somewhere will complain..racist..(not mature enough, touch on races means racist) this maybe a better way to find out the root of the problem. Different races have different culture . the breakdown detail can be found here. http://www.singstat.gov.sg/publications/publications_and_papers/marriages_and_divorces/marriages_and_divorces.html Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Littleboo 2nd Gear July 30, 2014 Share July 30, 2014 When woman or men are rich, they start to feel itchy..... Become a sugar nanny or sugar daddy make them feel proud ↡ Advertisement 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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