Curahee 1st Gear March 17, 2010 Share March 17, 2010 I m having this problem with my mother since young, now i already 27 yrs old still the same. I go oversea travel, she will stop me say i waste money travel, life too comfy, only know how to travel, enjoy life etc, for ur info i only go nearby country like bkk, malaysia, 1 yr once, i think its not a lot n costly. i go for road trip to malaysia she will stop me say that will kena rob, kill, buang etc, stay in spore better, i go JB for dinner she will stop me say JB crime rate very high, will kill, rob, i 1 am haven't come home she will call me and ask me go home asap, sleep too late bad for health, i very angry sometime, wonder why my freedom always need to be restricted, i need to tell lies like go friend bbq chalet etc den can stay out for a night or drive my car out of spore secretly, i m a laughing stock among my friends as they always laugh at me that i am mummy boy, so old liao mommy still control me like a 5 yrs old kid... Every nite go for friends gathering confirm cannot stay late etc coz the phone will be bombarded. She even say when i get my flat, move out, she will also control me. I dunno how... My wife very angry also as she start to control my wife behavior now. Anyone can provide some suggestion to solve this life long problem.... ↡ Advertisement Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Damienic 5th Gear March 17, 2010 Share March 17, 2010 wah sound very extreme...thought usually mothers if were to exhibit such behaviour is normally towards daughters and not son... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Damienic 5th Gear March 17, 2010 Share March 17, 2010 Try having a long heart to heart talk with her that you are already a grown up who knows how to take care of ownself and tell her not to worry? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Curahee 1st Gear March 17, 2010 Author Share March 17, 2010 wah sound very extreme...thought usually mothers if were to exhibit such behaviour is normally towards daughters and not son... Yes i dun understand, even my female friend also say their mom not like that.... My mom nv work outside before, nv see outside world before, dun like to explore n travel hence maybe thats why like a frog in the well, all her view very narrow minded n the worst thing is she tot her views r always right. Even i argue n try to tok some sense into her also no use, she will always feel she is right. My bro also kena the same thing like me. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ultramega 1st Gear March 17, 2010 Share March 17, 2010 Your mother loves you. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thugstercena Clutched March 17, 2010 Share March 17, 2010 (edited) sorry but. ur dad not around anymore? perhaps she just need companion? u must be well taken care of since young. Edited March 17, 2010 by Thugstercena Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Icebrush79 4th Gear March 17, 2010 Share March 17, 2010 You need to talk to your mom pal... If this goes on, it might affect your marriage or personal development.... She loves you yes.. but she cannot control your life like a puppet.... I'm sorry to hear that bro... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Curahee 1st Gear March 17, 2010 Author Share March 17, 2010 sorry but. ur dad not around anymore? perhaps she just need companion? u must be well taken care of since young. Yes he still around. Yes she take care of my family very well. Hence i always give in to her, n try not to defy her instructions. But i m reaching a point that i cannot take it anymore. I m like a cage animal all these year, why can't i travel? Even go oversea also cannot... I muz tell lies say its co. outing or lucky draw winner den i have the permission to go. This also affect me n my wife relationship.... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thugstercena Clutched March 17, 2010 Share March 17, 2010 try asking ur dad talk to her? perhaps people of the same generation could communicate better. cheer up bro. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gobbler Clutched March 17, 2010 Share March 17, 2010 in your mom heart, u are still a little boy. mabe thing will change when u settle down. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Meepok87 Neutral Newbie March 17, 2010 Share March 17, 2010 well i am 23 this year and sometimes i face this problem sometimes too. My mum is just like your mother, nv work outside before and blah blah. I feel that to settle this problem is to tell her how you feel. She will definitely reject what you say and say things like she love you and you will forever be her son blah blah. But be firm. Tell her that you dont like her to do that etc. Even if she reject what you say, i am sure she will think about you said to her. Hopefully she will change her actions. A few friend of mine face this kind of problem too, from what i observe, this is because all this while they are a very 'guai' child who nv gave their parents much worry or problems. however surprisingly this made the parents worry even more about them so my advice is, just talk to her abt this issue. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Damienic 5th Gear March 17, 2010 Share March 17, 2010 (edited) Yes he still around. Yes she take care of my family very well. Hence i always give in to her, n try not to defy her instructions. But i m reaching a point that i cannot take it anymore. I m like a cage animal all these year, why can't i travel? Even go oversea also cannot... I muz tell lies say its co. outing or lucky draw winner den i have the permission to go. This also affect me n my wife relationship.... have a good talk with her...if she tells you its waste of money to travel, perhaps you can reassure her that you are earning enough and will set aside a healthy sum every month for savings despite travelling..if she tell you not to stay out too late which is bad for your health, you can reassure her that you will always strive to have sufficient sleep and rest and that occasionally staying up late won't affect your health at all... yes, know how you feel but your mum really loves you...I think from the way you described, you and your bro mean the world to her..try talking to her in a calm manner and dun get agitated when you discuss with her about this...and as another forumer suggested, ask your dad to chip in a few words as well...for example when you try to convince her its ok to do something, then your father comes in to lend his support, then you can light heartedly tell her 'ha nor, even dad also agrees!'... Edited March 17, 2010 by Damienic Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Damienic 5th Gear March 17, 2010 Share March 17, 2010 in your mom heart, u are still a little boy. mabe thing will change when u settle down. most mothers still do think of their son as a boy even when they are grown ups....my mum dun fuss over me like in the case of TS, but sometimes when I go out with her occasionally, she will suddenly go off to buy me an ice-cream like she used to do when I was a child..Iam already in my 30's.. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thaiyotakamli Supersonic March 17, 2010 Share March 17, 2010 its good to have a mother who love and care about u, treasure her, shi shang zi you ma ma hao Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tom-Mouse Neutral Newbie March 17, 2010 Share March 17, 2010 I m having this problem with my mother since young, now i already 27 yrs old still the same. I go oversea travel, she will stop me say i waste money travel, life too comfy, only know how to travel, enjoy life etc, for ur info i only go nearby country like bkk, malaysia, 1 yr once, i think its not a lot n costly. i go for road trip to malaysia she will stop me say that will kena rob, kill, buang etc, stay in spore better, i go JB for dinner she will stop me say JB crime rate very high, will kill, rob, i 1 am haven't come home she will call me and ask me go home asap, sleep too late bad for health, i very angry sometime, wonder why my freedom always need to be restricted, i need to tell lies like go friend bbq chalet etc den can stay out for a night or drive my car out of spore secretly, i m a laughing stock among my friends as they always laugh at me that i am mummy boy, so old liao mommy still control me like a 5 yrs old kid... Every nite go for friends gathering confirm cannot stay late etc coz the phone will be bombarded. She even say when i get my flat, move out, she will also control me. I dunno how... My wife very angry also as she start to control my wife behavior now. Anyone can provide some suggestion to solve this life long problem.... mother very good u can joke with her that if she control too much, u too stressed, how to have grandkids ? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Felipe 3rd Gear March 17, 2010 Share March 17, 2010 that's typical of mothers. but as long as you know you are big enough and don't need that sorta care, that's fine. and most importantly, when married, don't ever live with her. it'll ruin your marriage. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Extramint Clutched March 17, 2010 Share March 17, 2010 i think, you're having a "good" problem Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Opel17 6th Gear March 17, 2010 Share March 17, 2010 ....I go oversea travel, she will stop me say i waste money travel, life too comfy, only know how to travel, enjoy life etc, for ur info i only go nearby country like bkk, malaysia, 1 yr once, i think its not a lot n costly. i go for road trip to malaysia she will stop me say that will kena rob, kill, buang etc, stay in spore better, i go JB for dinner she will stop me say JB crime rate very high, will kill, rob, i ... Try bring her along for your travels and road-trip and JB dinners. Maybe no more naggings, but "when going again ahh ?". When me & wif brought my mum along to Genting via coach twice, she enjoyed, never say worried about safety. The 3rd time, we went alone. On the coach ride back, she kept calling say worried about our safety. ↡ Advertisement Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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