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https://stomp.straitstimes.com/singapore-seen/former-actor-joshua-ang-on-how-baby-son-ended-up-in-icu-allegedly-due-to-negligent?amp

 

just read this from stomp thought of sharing here but couldn't find the appropriate title.

 

pain for the baby having to go through such ordeal. fortunately everything turn out well eventually.

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https://stomp.straitstimes.com/singapore-seen/former-actor-joshua-ang-on-how-baby-son-ended-up-in-icu-allegedly-due-to-negligent?amp

 

just read this from stomp thought of sharing here but couldn't find the appropriate title.

 

pain for the baby having to go through such ordeal. fortunately everything turn out well eventually.

Guess good to start new thread. Cos 2019 news dun put into 2014 thread.

 

Somemore common tag is "Confinement" only.

 

Thank me later.

 

 

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Guess good to start new thread. Cos 2019 news dun put into 2014 thread.

 

Somemore common tag is "Confinement" only.

 

Thank me later.

 

ððððð

 

Safe ride

Cheers

Hahhaha ya

 

Started new one

 

Split the thread

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Hahhaha ya

 

Started new one

 

Split the thread

 

 

KNN why you never split the breadTalk one?  <_<  [laugh]  [laugh]

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No. 1 rule of hiring confinement nanny, don't get someone who's getting on in age.

 

The one who did for my boy in 2015 was OK. Was very highly recommended by my maternal side cousin. Then subsequently became a bad one. Was asked to leave early by my friend and also my parental side cousin.

 

They can't deal with the fatigue and start doing all kinds of shortcuts or taking the parents for a ride.

 

This cutting teat confinement nanny is terribly negligent. Best is dunno but still insist she knows.

 

In this day and age, just get the catered confinement food at most. Better off hiring a helper earlier if u can afford one.

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Guess good to start new thread. Cos 2019 news dun put into 2014 thread.

 

Somemore common tag is "Confinement" only.

 

Thank me later.

 

ððððð

 

Safe ride

Cheers

thanks. the trend is to start new thread now huh..
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KNN why you never split the breadTalk one? <_<[laugh][laugh]

Cos I never see?

 

Hahhaha

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Cos I never see?

 

Hahhaha

 

 

nah!!!  [laugh]  [laugh]  [laugh]

 

 

 

obese-stick-figure-with-magifying-glass.

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No. 1 rule of hiring confinement nanny, don't get someone who's getting on in age.

 

The one who did for my boy in 2015 was OK. Then subsequently became a bad one. Was asked to leave early by my friend and also my cousin.

me and wife didn't engage any nanny for my boy.

 

food wise we engaged Thomson medical catering.

 

my wife and mom took turn to look after the baby. There were some occasions of disagreements between mum and wife on how to care for the baby. my wife modern English speaking while my mum old traditional practices. Can imagine my mum anguish when wife came home from hospital straight head for shower and hair wash. 2nd day already walking around the house (probably due to her physic as she was a seasond half marathon runner) after One week she and my boy already out to the shopping mall.

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me and wife didn't engage any nanny for my boy.

 

food wise we engaged Thomson medical catering.

 

my wife and mom took turn to look after the baby. There were some occasions of disagreements between mum and wife on how to care for the baby. my wife modern English speaking while my mum old traditional practices. Can imagine my mum anguish when wife came home from hospital straight head for shower and hair wash. 2nd day already walking around the house (probably due to her physic as she was a seasond half marathon runner) after One week she and my boy already out to the shopping mall. ð

Yes. My wife and my MIL also pek chek with each other during 1st kid. Own mother like that already, If my mother involved, sure ww3.

Hence the confinement nanny for 2nd one. I used to be strong proponent for confinement nanny. But it's really expensive nowadays and the service is getting worse anecdotally.

Like the one I hired that eventually became bad. My cousin was so happy with her that she actually hired her for like 2 months initially. Then later on 2 occasions, she hired her again cos she was ill and needed help (even though she only has that one son). Then years down the road, become so bad had to be terminated early twice.

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Yes. My wife and my MIL also pek chek with each other during 1st kid. Own mother like that already, If my mother involved, sure ww3.

Hence the confinement nanny for 2nd one. I used to be strong proponent for confinement nanny. But it's really expensive nowadays and the service is getting worse anecdotally.

Like the one I hired that eventually became bad. My cousin was so happy with her that she actually hired her for like 2 months initially. Then later on 2 occasions, she hired her again cos she was ill and needed help (even though she only has that one son). Then years down the road, become so bad had to be terminated early twice.

young couple not staying with elders probably need to get a nanny. lucky for me and wifey there are two mummy to nag and preventing her from getting out of line during confinement period.

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Guess good to start new thread. Cos 2019 news dun put into 2014 thread.

 

Somemore common tag is "Confinement" only.

 

Thank me later.

 

 

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my friend had a bad experience with the confinement auntie he hired also ....

 

came home and found money from his can missing .... asked the lady and lady retorted why suspect its her.

 

my friend told her, only 4 ppl in the house - himself, his wife and the baby and the confinement auntie.

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glad to see the baby is healthy and happy now.

 

Those who are new parents or to be, in addition to hiring a confinement lady or having a maid, it will be good to have a grandparents to help, dont turn down your own parents or in law'soffer just because of generation gap and ideal differences, they are the most trusted helpers in the world. One should count himself fortunate and blessed to have his/her parents or in law to help.

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In western world, no such thing as nanny(not full time at least) or confinement lady to cook for you or look after your baby... the mother do everything themselves..

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In western world, no such thing as nanny(not full time at least) or confinement lady to cook for you or look after your baby... the mother do everything themselves..

in Aust Asian community there are do nanny service but the fee can set you back 10 to 15k for one month. no stay over. Edited by Kopites

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No. 1 rule of hiring confinement nanny, don't get someone who's getting on in age.

 

The one who did for my boy in 2015 was OK. Was very highly recommended by my maternal side cousin. Then subsequently became a bad one. Was asked to leave early by my friend and also my parental side cousin.

 

They can't deal with the fatigue and start doing all kinds of shortcuts or taking the parents for a ride.

 

This cutting teat confinement nanny is terribly negligent. Best is dunno but still insist she knows.

 

In this day and age, just get the catered confinement food at most. Better off hiring a helper earlier if u can afford one.

 

i have mostly bad experience or heard of bad confinement nannies.  most are in it for the money but without the mindset to do the job professionally......like for instance, the one i hired before, also sleeps more than helping my wife or looking after my baby.  cutting the teat is probably another way of trying to make baby sleep more and then the nanny could sleep more as well.  besides that, i also heard another case, nanny put few drops of liquor into the milk for the baby to drink, also in the hope of making the baby sleep more instead of constantly waking up.

 

this industry should be regulated, especially the free lancer coming in from malaysia to make quick money.

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i have mostly bad experience or heard of bad confinement nannies.  most are in it for the money but without the mindset to do the job professionally......like for instance, the one i hired before, also sleeps more than helping my wife or looking after my baby.  cutting the teat is probably another way of trying to make baby sleep more and then the nanny could sleep more as well.  besides that, i also heard another case, nanny put few drops of liquor into the milk for the baby to drink, also in the hope of making the baby sleep more instead of constantly waking up.

 

this industry should be regulated, especially the free lancer coming in from malaysia to make quick money.

 

the one i hired. The reason i recommended to my friend, was that she was saying how long it took for my son to drink milk. 

But she still lie in her bed and continued to feed. She said one of the slowest drinking babies she ever met.

 

When she left, we tried feeding my son from bottle. Took him 2 hrs to finish 45ml.  -_-

Arm literally cramp holding the bottle. That's a 4 week old baby liao.

Bo pian cos the breast milk wasn't enough also.

 

And she did this every night throughout. And she managed to feed 90mls during that time which is amaaaazing (without cutting teats haha)

 

but 2 years down the line, kana sacked haha

 

 

 

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My adopted baby son is fed exclusively with formula milk, for obvious reason.

What we've learned is that if the nipple teat hole is too small and not milk flowing out, he will cry.

When he's fed enough, he will push the bottle away.

 

How to force feed a baby, I'm not sure, unless you use brute strength ?

 

I'm not supporting the confinement nanny, but some might just cut the hole, if not enough milk is flowing.

For me, I just buy one with a bigger hole.

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glad to see the baby is healthy and happy now.

 

Those who are new parents or to be, in addition to hiring a confinement lady or having a maid, it will be good to have a grandparents to help, dont turn down your own parents or in law'soffer just because of generation gap and ideal differences, they are the most trusted helpers in the world. One should count himself fortunate and blessed to have his/her parents or in law to help.

 

true.. but usually part of the reason is to prevent WW3 as Lala81 mentioned.. 

My adopted baby son is fed exclusively with formula milk, for obvious reason.

What we've learned is that if the nipple teat hole is too small and not milk flowing out, he will cry.

When he's fed enough, he will push the bottle away.

 

How to force feed a baby, I'm not sure, unless you use brute strength ?

 

I'm not supporting the confinement nanny, but some might just cut the hole, if not enough milk is flowing.

For me, I just buy one with a bigger hole.

 

how old was your adopted baby son then? had no problems with first stage teats and first stage formula.. 

 

usually new born won't push the bottle away

No. 1 rule of hiring confinement nanny, don't get someone who's getting on in age.

 

The one who did for my boy in 2015 was OK. Was very highly recommended by my maternal side cousin. Then subsequently became a bad one. Was asked to leave early by my friend and also my parental side cousin.

 

They can't deal with the fatigue and start doing all kinds of shortcuts or taking the parents for a ride.

 

This cutting teat confinement nanny is terribly negligent. Best is dunno but still insist she knows.

 

In this day and age, just get the catered confinement food at most. Better off hiring a helper earlier if u can afford one.

 

i think the market now to hire a helper is cheaper than hiring a confinement nanny if you look into per month rates..

 

however not every domestic helper may have experience of handling new borns.. hence people often still turn to confinement nanny..

 

what if your domestic helper is like the one in below link?

http://theindependent.sg/foreign-domestic-worker-abandons-crying-toddler-at-employers-home/

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My adopted baby son is fed exclusively with formula milk, for obvious reason.

What we've learned is that if the nipple teat hole is too small and not milk flowing out, he will cry.

When he's fed enough, he will push the bottle away.

 

How to force feed a baby, I'm not sure, unless you use brute strength ?

 

I'm not supporting the confinement nanny, but some might just cut the hole, if not enough milk is flowing.

For me, I just buy one with a bigger hole.

 

Confinement nannies know got different sized teats one lah. lol.

 

Mine told me to change teat after the 2nd or 3rd week.

Usually quite typical is they start sucking a lot of air or very noisy sucking.

 

And the holes are really small. It's just 1 hole vs 2 vs 3 vs 4 tiny ones. There is zero way u can CUT it to make it up 1 grade. In fact u will move all the way from grade 1 to grade 4.

I know cos my son when he's older tended to bite open a tiny hole in his teats. The flow is a lot more even if u are using the maximum grade teat.

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true.. but usually part of the reason is to prevent WW3 as Lala81 mentioned..

.......

 

Understand, in some cases just does not work out, but as much as possible, think win-win, embrace, accomodate, usually the benefits outweigh many other challenges. Edited by Ct3833

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Understand, in some cases just does not work out, but as much as possible, think win-win, embrace, accomodate, usually the benefits outweigh many other challenges.

To ask a woman be rationale may already be quite a challenge for some. Moreover after giving birth!!
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I employed 3 different confinement nannies in 9 years. Never really had any problems with them.

 

As long end of the day, the mother was well rested, well fed and happy. The child was well taken care of and happy too. These are the most important of all. But mayb we are the chin cai type of family, so ppl come to us also tend to be chin cai ppl. 

 

Employing confinement nannies are no different from employing maids, they are human beings and we cannot expect to throw everything at them. I always believe in I take care of you so you will take care of ppl ard me. 

 

We had bed for the nannies, and made sure they were comfortable resting in that bed, they were all allowed to take afternoon naps when the baby sleeps with the mother. This is because the nannies have to wake up in the middle of the night to take care of the baby while the parents sleep, so we have to make sure she has enough rest in the day so she can do her job at night. 

 

They ate whatever the mother ate, or whatever they want to eat I bought for them. Although usually they will ask if i want to eat this or that, and can cook for me. I just buy the raw stuffs and get them to prepare. 

 

Nanny only do washing via washing machine, sweep and mop the floor, other house cleaning I do, and I do the ironing myself. 

 

Her job is to take care of the baby and the mother full time. 

 

The ang bao upon arrival play an important part too, at least to me played a part in how the nannies will behave. 

 

To me the most important thing is for the nannies to take good care of the mother and child in that 28 days, anything else take 2nd place.   ^_^  [laugh]  [laugh]

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the one i hired. The reason i recommended to my friend, was that she was saying how long it took for my son to drink milk. 

But she still lie in her bed and continued to feed. She said one of the slowest drinking babies she ever met.

 

When she left, we tried feeding my son from bottle. Took him 2 hrs to finish 45ml.  -_-

Arm literally cramp holding the bottle. That's a 4 week old baby liao.

Bo pian cos the breast milk wasn't enough also.

 

And she did this every night throughout. And she managed to feed 90mls during that time which is amaaaazing (without cutting teats haha)

 

but 2 years down the line, kana sacked haha

 

my confinement nanny wasn't atrocious but it does make me feel like they are in it for the money without caring on their own service delivery that is consummate with the fees paid.

 

hence when i read this report of the derelict confinement nanny, i can immediately identify with such a feeling and perception.

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