Lamchi Neutral Newbie April 5, 2023 Share April 5, 2023 To share my own reflections and life lessons after 30: I believe in the afterlife and that our time on earth is short. So I asked myself, what I'm doing everyday that is purposeful and meaningful? When I couldn't answer the question, I quit my job 🙂 It wasn't a bad job, it's just that it's not the most purposeful or meaningful thing I could be doing everyday. ↡ Advertisement 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Etnt Turbocharged April 5, 2023 Share April 5, 2023 there are finite number of hours a day, choose wisely how you want to spend it and who to spend it with. there are finite number of meals left in your life, choose wisely what you want to eat for your next meal. 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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SiLangKia Supersonic April 5, 2023 Author Share April 5, 2023 On 3/29/2023 at 7:53 AM, RadX said: At 30ish, I went into a coma, and the rest is history..........never thought I would be alive today. However, God with all his grace has kept me here... My stories of near death, my dialysis as well as my post transplant (10 years now) has brought me much to be thankful for! The most important lesson I have for all is: Family will always be there for you....never ever de prioritize them! Agreed, God has been very gracious to me as well, giving me a second chance at life after my cancer, indeed very thankful and won't take His Grace for granted. Family definitely is my main priority, as I've seen how ppl leave you when you're down and out and only surround you when you're doing ok, only family won'tabandon you (often I take their presence for granted, but what you said is a good reminder never to) On 3/29/2023 at 8:33 AM, Jamesc said: In my 30s I remember going to a lot of weddings because frens and colleagues my age all getting married. In one company we seem to meet up every month for a colleague wedding and so many different 5 star hotels we came to the conclusion Boulevard hotel surprisingly not the most expensive had the best wedding food. In your 50s you go to weddings but mostly nieces and nephews. In your 60s I have been told you go to a lot of funerals. Anyway the point I wanted to make was when you are young you are sheltered by good people your family and friends. Only when you go out to work you find a lot of evil a**holes. Just like on the roads! SLK stay true to yourself always be the good guy. The world doesn't need another evil a**hole but just one more good guy it's so much better. hahahaha how you know I good guy On 3/29/2023 at 8:41 AM, Soya said: Bro...30 is practically still a tadpole swimming to the egg la....lol. Many many more joys and disappointments lie ahead so pace yourself Ya pacing very important, I always tend to run too fast then burnout hahaha, physically, mentally and emotionally On 3/29/2023 at 8:58 AM, ER-3682 said: @SiLangKiaso young... hahahahaha i don't feel young liao 😞 On 3/29/2023 at 9:28 AM, Fitvip said: @SiLangKia Any plan to change your nick? 🤐 Yandaokia is more suitable! no la i not yandao, average singaporean guy On 3/29/2023 at 9:40 AM, Tianmo said: I did not look back until closer to 50, at 30 I had only one direction, forward march, and nothing seem to be able to stop me, or rather almost nothing. 30 is a good age to do many things, almost everything. 30 is when you can take all the punishments and still stand up and move with pain and injuries. 30 is a golden age, listen to your heart, do what you want. Every old man was young once, to get to 50, we have to get passed 30, and at 30 our thoughts were much different from today. My 30 won't be the same as yours, and your 50 likely not going to look like mine, so be yourself! Everything happen for a reason, and bad things happen for a good reason. Bad things happen so that the worst thing won't happen, so be thankful "bad" things happen, because it could have been worse. I look forward to updates on "at 40", "at 50", "at 60", though I won't be able to read "at 60", likely not even "at 50". However, if you burn me a copy, I might be able to share some of my thoughts via a dream. Yes boss, really sound advice, I will listen to my heart hahahahaa. I do believe everything happens for a reason, sometimes from where we are we can't understand/see why things happen now, but on hindsight it all makes sense and we're thankful that it happened. Will update you, but maybe by then can't burn a copy liao cos tech improvements so I'll send you thru the cloud HAHAHAHA On 3/29/2023 at 9:42 AM, RadX said: i definitely resonate wih the 'things happen for good reason' there are forces beyond us that know why they happen Yes totally agree! On 3/29/2023 at 9:47 AM, BanCoe said: Ah Boy oni 30 ……. Now all “ cannot tahan” Unkers falling in like becoming Retirement Thread 🤣🤣 I feel old haiz 3 4 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
SiLangKia Supersonic April 5, 2023 Author Share April 5, 2023 On 3/29/2023 at 11:59 AM, Estrangable said: at 30 years old, my ex gf kept pushing me to get married... what are u waiting for.. u are already 30... she was 29 then. the only thing i rem... the day we broke up.. i went partying with my brothers... probably one of the happiest day of my life. Finally out of the miserable r/s.... dont get me wrong... i was partially at fault as well... but i really disliked having to "report" to her and all her suspicions.... "what are u doing now".... My advice which i think is gold... "dont be afraid to move out of a relationship or marriage... when you are with a wrong person... u are just simply wasting your life away. Dont be afraid of being alone. You rather be alone and happy , rather than stuck in a shitty r/s. It was a good thing I broke off my engagement as we both felt it wasn't right after awhile. I think I would have been miserable if I was married to her now hahaha, to be fair she probably would too, very different character and love language. On 3/29/2023 at 8:30 PM, BanCoe said: MCF quite boring last few dayz until SLK open this topic 🤣🤣 HAHAHAHA I anyhow one didn't know y'all will come in and talk cock On 3/29/2023 at 11:08 PM, Lala81 said: At 30 years old, was just working like a dog at work. Not a healthy lifestyle at all but got by cos still youngish. Got married at age 30. Started getting out of the shadow of my parents and establishing my own independent family. Had my kid within one year of marriage. We never planned for it so soon when we haven't even gotten our flat yet. Also had difficulties between my mum and my wife. Had to set some boundaries which was tested over the years and only settled a couple of years later. Which was a pain in the ass. I think the 30s are about beginning a new phase of independent life, setting the foundations of your career and recognizing your own flaws (lifestyle, attitudes) and beginning to correct them. The latter is not really possible in your 20s cos your assumptions had no wisdom or insight behind them. By your late 30s, you would have seen lot more phenotypes and repetitive patterns (even if you are like me generally someone who absolutely is the last to know about any gossip). Even your mentors/seniors, you would begin to see their flaws and sometimes understand how you may have some rosy tinted glasses in the first place. Sorry to hear abt your difficulties navigating the familiar relationships, but glad that you managed to iron it out with time. I agree that the 30s is a good time to "find your groove" and it's only the beginning for me but I won't waste time. Now that I'm not married yet, I guess I still have the leeway to explore life without having to be tied down by commitments (yet) and hopefully grow in wisdom and insight in the near future. On 3/30/2023 at 7:22 AM, TangoCharlie said: Bro Tianmo intro this song which is quite reflective of life in general. Sharing it here. TS is mature despite only 30. An old soul in a young body. 😄 Me at 30? It's only about me until marriage, have kids. Loss of a brother at 38 woke me up. Recently came across a writing that I like. Sharing it before I forget. 立定脚跟做人 放大肚皮容物 At 50s, forget quickly unpleasant stuff, only remember the good ones. Trying to do that. Thanks fot thinking I'm mature, hahahahah I'm just tryng to take stock of life thus far, not let it pass by too quickly without looking back and remembering the lessons along the way, and letting the experience build the foundation for my future. I do have a very good memory, so it's a double edged sword, cutting both ways, as I remember unpleasant stuff vividly. Learning to let go and let live... hahahaha On 3/30/2023 at 7:43 AM, BanCoe said: SLK happy 30th birthday 🎂🎂🎂…… see all the unkers here forgit to wish U …… must askin boss @kobayashiGTarrange party lah now 🤣🤣🤣 passed alr la hahahaha but thanks On 3/30/2023 at 12:27 PM, Estrangable said: agreed but dont be pressured to do so just because your bto is here or u are reaching your 30s , or your ah ma is chasing you to settle down. in life, its always these 3 scenarios - 1 - right person at the wrong time 2 - wrong person at the right time 3 - wrong person at the wrong time (most miserable... i kenna before) i kena 1 and 2 before, my last 2 relationships HAHA On 3/30/2023 at 2:23 PM, Jamesc said: Poor SLK will be an old man before he finish reading all the posts. "I celebrated my 30th birthday, started a thread and by the time I finished reading every last post I was an old man. Just like all the old men that contributed. The years after I was 30 just flew by in flash. I really cannot remember doing anything after my birthday!" Eh i finished hor, took about a week, still 30, havent reached 31 yet hor HAHAHAHA On 3/31/2023 at 8:41 AM, Jamesc said: Before its gone. I remember going out for my 30th birthday . . . next thing I remember posting in MCF as an old man posting on a 30 year young man's thread telling him how frightening the years after 30 go by. Don't waste it on meaningless things. Like MCF! Keep away and enjoy yourself. I wished I smooch with as many girls as the number of posts I made in MCF! And I don't even dare to ask a girl out haiz On 3/31/2023 at 9:51 AM, Soya said: By the time u finish replying, time to collect CPF liao Juz enjoy ur 30s n don't think too much abt stuff u can't control But make sure u choose a good MIL otherwise turn out maciam jamessc.... HAHAHA that's why still single, cos dating apps only show the girls but not their mothers, too risky sia On 4/2/2023 at 12:04 PM, Fcw75 said: Can try to sian her…sensible lady at 23. Maybe she will give you a clear direction and not confusing signals. 😁 https://www.todayonline.com/gen-z-speaks/gen-z-speaks-i-was-surrounded-death-while-growing-it-taught-me-appreciate-life-2136991?cid=ig_ig_social-free_29082018_today&mibextid=Zxz2cZ At the end of the day, life is short and most things are not a big deal. I’ve learnt to take things in my stride and go with the flow. Why sour relations over something trivial? Why let egos get in the way? Outside of work, I’ve become more “cincai” (Hokkien slang for doing as one pleases), and stopped being so uptight about things. Since starting work in this industry and hearing several stories of our departed clients, I’ve come to realise that one of my biggest fears is that at the end of my life, I will come to regret not prioritising the things that matter. Having regrets is a huge burden to carry, and one example is that we often fail to appreciate the people we have around us until it’s too late. I see this play out frequently in funerals, with loved ones expressing their regrets of not spending enough time with the deceased, making amends for a past wrong, or saying the words that were left unsaid. I can clearly say this one i don't want, and I'm not confused HAHAHAHA On 4/3/2023 at 10:31 PM, Fcw75 said: Saw a channel 8 program and a 78 years old Ah Pek is still doing hurdles. Power! He said one thing that really make sense: Legs. If you don’t use it, you will lose it. 3rd leg? HAHAHA On 4/5/2023 at 3:41 PM, Etnt said: there are finite number of hours a day, choose wisely how you want to spend it and who to spend it with. there are finite number of meals left in your life, choose wisely what you want to eat for your next meal. lai , finite hours and finite meals left, MCF MU anyone? 4 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scion Turbocharged April 6, 2023 Share April 6, 2023 there are only about 30,000 (+-) days in life if u live past 40/50yo, probably about 15k days left 😂 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
mersaylee Supersonic April 6, 2023 Share April 6, 2023 Stop the counting...if you must... start counting down to...😁 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fcw75 Hypersonic April 6, 2023 Share April 6, 2023 On 4/6/2023 at 3:49 AM, SiLangKia said: It was a good thing I broke off my engagement as we both felt it wasn't right after awhile. I think I would have been miserable if I was married to her now hahaha, to be fair she probably would too, very different character and love language. HAHAHAHA I anyhow one didn't know y'all will come in and talk cock Sorry to hear abt your difficulties navigating the familiar relationships, but glad that you managed to iron it out with time. I agree that the 30s is a good time to "find your groove" and it's only the beginning for me but I won't waste time. Now that I'm not married yet, I guess I still have the leeway to explore life without having to be tied down by commitments (yet) and hopefully grow in wisdom and insight in the near future. Thanks fot thinking I'm mature, hahahahah I'm just tryng to take stock of life thus far, not let it pass by too quickly without looking back and remembering the lessons along the way, and letting the experience build the foundation for my future. I do have a very good memory, so it's a double edged sword, cutting both ways, as I remember unpleasant stuff vividly. Learning to let go and let live... hahahaha passed alr la hahahaha but thanks i kena 1 and 2 before, my last 2 relationships HAHA Eh i finished hor, took about a week, still 30, havent reached 31 yet hor HAHAHAHA And I don't even dare to ask a girl out haiz HAHAHA that's why still single, cos dating apps only show the girls but not their mothers, too risky sia I can clearly say this one i don't want, and I'm not confused HAHAHAHA 3rd leg? HAHAHA lai , finite hours and finite meals left, MCF MU anyone? Things happened for a reason? No. Things happened randomly for no reason at all. But they create opportunities and you learn from those opportunities, even the missed ones. The question is, can you recognize the next opportunity when it matters the most? 😁 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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