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Why romantic love is overrated Margaret Wente | Columnist profile | E-mail From Saturday's Globe and Mail Published Saturday, Feb. 11, 2012 2:00AM EST Last updated Saturday, Feb. 11, 2012 8:03PM EST 212 comments Email Print/License Decrease text size Increase text size Am I the only person who thinks Valentine

By Maureen Koh The New Paper Tuesday, Feb 07, 2012 She is the other woman. No regrets, she said in an interview with The New Paper on Sunday in 2006. Well, none until she was unceremoniously dumped in 2010 after spending half her youth being a married man's mistress. Regret showed through her make-up during the hour-long interview with Ms Melissa Phua. She sums up the life she led since she was 24: "I am cash rich, but the money can't buy me love." And there is a permanent scar left on the 40-year-old stunner, who looks barely 30. Just as she now desperately wants to hide her tainted life, her long hair covers a 5cm-long scar on the right cheek. Without betraying any emotion, Ms Phua recalls: "The stupid wife came to our love nest, went ballistic and started smashing stuff. In the midst of trying to beat me up, she clawed my face." The love nest was a posh condominium apartment in District 9 which the man owned. After that attack, Ms Phua used it as an excuse to "threaten" the man, who is 29 years older, into calling it quits. Says the former model: "I saw it as a chance to escape. He had grown tired of me and the frequent sex had slowed down from five times a week to only once in a fortnight." Two years on, Ms Phua now lives in a terrace house she owns in District 10. She has investments in two other private properties. She zips around town in a Volkswagen Golf Cabriolet. When the high roller is not at the local casinos, she's at home watching Korean dramas. Her ex-lover, whom she met in December 1996 when she was modelling for a lingerie company at his company's function, "provided well" during their time together, she adds. He used to sit on the board of directors of a multi-national company, but she is unsure of what he is doing now. Ms Phua's "last-drawn monthly allowance" was $10,000 - that was on top of the platinum credit card "with no limit" she was given and a luxury sports car. And when she felt like travelling, she could just go wherever she fancied - on first class - and stay at the best hotels in the world. A significant change in her lifestyle now is that she no longer splurges on the latest designer brands. That, she claims, was merely a move to stash money away following her mother's advice on her death bed. Says Ms Phua: "My mother was very upset when she found out that I was kept, but she gradually accepted it. "The best advice she gave me was just before she died (in 2001) to make plans for my future in case he dumps me." According to the "relationship agreement" drawn up in 1997, - Ms Phua still keeps a copy - she will lose everything, except the car and whatever cash savings she has, if he suspects her of being unfaithful. She adds: "That's why I'd charge to my credit (card) things that my friends wanted and give them a 10 per cent discount in return for cash payment." Ms Phua also invested in gold jewellery and kept it away from him. She confesses that she has kept a string of other lovers, but would call it off whenever she felt that her ex-lover was getting suspicious. Since her new life began, Ms Phua has gone through three other relationships, but none lasted beyond 10 months. She explains: "Somehow, there's still a stigma. I could easily try to keep (the affair) a secret, but I prefer to lay my cards on the table." Unfortunately, the truth hurts. Ms Phua says: "Two of them broke up with me shortly after I revealed the truth. It didn't matter that this was history even before we met." The third boyfriend "struggled for several weeks before coming to terms with it". Until she dropped another bombshell: she can never have a baby. A clause in her arrangement with her ex-lover stated that she cannot get pregnant. This prompted Ms Phua to go for a ligation procedure after she moved into their love nest, three months after they met. She says: "It hurts me whenever I see my friends with their children, when they talk about their kids with such pride." Like a self-prophecy, Ms Phua repeats her words from her first interview in 2006: "I will be a lonely woman. "Because by then (now), it'd also be too late for me to find someone who'd love me." This article was first published in The New Paper. source http://news.asiaone.com/News/Latest%2BNews...206-326166.html

A car is just a 'thing' which moves us from A to B. Some do it faster than others. That's about all in the begining. Then car designers/makers start to create attractive shapes, more power, brandname/image etc and attach all these to the car and as a result some pple spend millions just to buy one, occasionally use it to go from A to B, but most of the time to admire it or make others admire it and themselves. Other than the size of the car which makes it so visible and therefore 'represents' very clearly the owner's wealth, status, and taste etc, what other aspects make a car so important in a man's life to become his lover? Some cars achieve the opposite due to its look and/or reputation (or the lack of both) so much so that pple claim they wont be seen alive driving them. How much of your income / time go into your ride?...... most likely after your flat/house, this is your 2nd most expensive possession (not counting your wife/gf). In fact, quite many MCFers join the forum because of their love for cars. To test your love for cars, which model/car you are trhing to own, after which you will take a long time to look for / change to another one again? meaning your dream car which will satisfy your love for car and stop you from looking for another one

Gals, as you know I just broken up with my GF of many years. I am heartbroken but sincerely looking for true love. I would give a brief description of myself for your consideration. Height: 1.65m Weight: 70kg I am not rich and do not drive a porsche but I am a hardworking man and work everyday from Monday to Sunday. I don't think I am handsome but beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. As they say, NPNT, so I posted a picture of myself below. I will truly love you and be faitfhful to you. My redeeming factor is that I am willing to lick and make you happy. Please pm me if you are interested in becoming my one and only love.

STOMPer Sherley's husband treats her well and never lets her suffer. He worked hard and spent all his money on Sherley and her daughter, even though the child was not his. Sherley shares her story with us: "I got to know my current husband through a website called Tagged. After getting to know him through Tagged, we added each other on Facebook. "When I first got to know him, we chatted on MSN and Facebook. He followed up by asking for my number, so I gave it to him . "We address each other as 'Brother' and 'Sister'. This way of addressing each other never changed till the day we got together . "We met up together with other friends as somehow our friends are linked. I still remember that time I was attached, and I called him while I was crying. "I told him that I was very upset as my boyfriend had made accusations at me. Without a second thought, he came down to my place to find me even though it was midnight. "He tried really hard to make me smile, and he tried his very best to crack jokes. He was even very protective towards me when my boyfriend suddenly came down to talk to me. "He even warned my boyfriend not to shout or lay his hands on me. Soon after that day, my boyfriend and I broke up. My husband-to-be was there for me all this while, cheering me up and even accompanying me for my interview. "On the Jan 21 2011, we got together! The place where he first held my hand was at Martin's Pub at Boat Quay. "He knows that I've got a daughter but he has never mistreated her since the day we got together. He loves my daughter like his own. He worked very very hard every single day and spent all his money on my daughter and I. "He gave up his brothers and his friends just for my sake. He stopped drinking and cut down his smoking for the sake of our little family. "He has a very horrible past in which everyone would call him a playboy. There was once I wanted to leave him because I thought that I couldn't accept his past. "He cried very hard and he even punched the wall. He even put aside his pride and asked me to stay. My heart hurt to see him like this so I decided to stay and persuaded myself to accept his past. "Soon, it's going to be our first year anniversary and we have a baby daughter now. Everything was supposed to be great and fine, but what makes my heart hurt the most is that he's going to court on his birthday which is on Jan 17 this year. "There is nothing I can do and I can only give him my support. He is the first guy in my life that treats me so well and never lets me suffer. He would rather be the one who does all the housework and the one who bathes our daughters and feeds them. "He does so many things for me without a single complaint. "I'm writing in not because of the prizes, but I just want to tell others how blissful and happy I am. I'm appreciative and glad that he is mine. "Lastly, Hubby, thanks for every single little thing that you have done for me and all the love and concern you have for our little family! "Happy First Year Anniversary in advance, and Happy Birthday in advance! "I LOVE YOU!" Link Sabbie is that U? [inlove]

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Looks doesn't matter! True love prevails! Chance for JJ! http://www.asiaone.com/static/multimedia/g...111203_couples/

Does anyone know the original formula? my fren told me this but he spoke too fast, i might have missed some numbers: If you are 18yr old, 1 day can tahan 8 times 28yr old, less energies liao:- 8 times every 2 days 38yr old, less energies + less interest:- 8 times every 3 weeks 49yr old, bo chap liao:- 4 times in 9 weeks 59yr old, 5 times in 9 months, if lucky

Brought the gal to to a bar at Swissotel on Saturday, yes with the 20 year old syt. Then after that we went to Amara and yeah we did it. Her sisters parents kept calling her throughout the nite but she didnt answer. Then the morning after I sent her home. Now she started acting cold and say that "she won't take any step further" with me cos of my background..married and with kid. And she said what happened last night was that "she was crazy and high" . I said my marriage will be ending soon. She's not replying to my messages or calls. I really like this gal and told her I love her. I really don't know what to do now. I don't know why she became cold to me all of a sudden. Advice needed...

Going out next Friday night, also what to say during the conversation. I have been out of the game for so long.

Any Pacman fan here?

Bros, A few days ago, started to flirt with a female colleague, it was normal i think. Then I asked her for number to whatsapp her, she said she don't give out her number usually. Then I said ok then , before parting she asked to see my phone and keyed in her number. Yesterday I asked her if she would like a lift home as she is at Jurong and no car, she read the msg but only replied an hour later that she doesn't need a loft. Her messages to me started to slow down last nite. How should I proceed on from here?

What is your take for GFs or wives to constantly check on your mobile phone or earsdrop on you when you pick up an incoming call or SMS???? Some say it is a kinda gesture of love , I personally find it a sense of insecure/distrust to her partner as well as herself and it is an absolute TURN OFF. Totally nothing to do with love at all. Bet there are friends even you yourself fall victims of such . What are your views????

I like the Neo Satria alot cause I feel its nice. Unfortunatley, the car is lacking in power, no 4WD, just 1.6L NA engine. No Turbo.... sigh.... Why can't they just drop in a 2L Evo engine, make it 4WD with their Ohlins suspension and Green Lotus colour instead? It will be really cool!!

Njoy the song Ya..... http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=wlQFQVvi5EM

Here is a chance for the tiko rangers to hoalian. Has anyone managed to "love" from all 4 ethnic groups?

Anyone knows is there a website that list out the episodes and its storyline. I want to know how the characters play out. Its frustrating to watch the show without knowing the ending and outcome of each character. Cant seems to search any blog or forums on this show using Goolge/yahoo. Anyone can guide me to the story line?

http://www.odditycentral.com/pics/only-in-...e-bustling.html Some people tend to compare Japanese Love Dolls with regular western sex dolls, but in reality, they are on a whole other level. Believe it or not, people actually pay big money to sleep with a doll, at the bustling love doll brothels across Japan. The first Japanese love dolls were created 30 years ago, so that people with disabilities could enjoy some female companionship, but they quickly became an alternative for healthy men simply to shy to enjoy sleeping with real women. A lot of Japanese men are obsessed with anime and manga girls, and these realistic love dolls gave them the chance to actually fulfill their fantasies of spending some time with their favorite characters. Some have spent hundreds of thousands of dollars buying dozens of high-end love dolls, made of silicon, and feel much more comfortable in their presence than they would in that of a real woman. They don

Why SG kids so violent these days ? Lack of parenting ? Wrong priorities in our society ? Man stabbed in row with love rival at void deck Mr Goh showing the injuries he suffered in the knife attack. -- PHOTO: COURTESY OF HENDRIX GOH A HAWKER'S assistant told The Straits Times on Tuesday how he was stabbed by a love rival at the void deck of a block of flats. Mr Hendrix Goh, 25, said the 19-year-old, who had once dated his girlfriend, knifed him in the collarbone, left arm and back. He said he was hospitalised for a week after the incident in Bedok North earlier this month. The youth is understood to have been arrested. Mr Goh said he was walking to get a taxi with his girlfriend and two other friends after having supper at a hawker centre when the suspect called to say that he wanted to come and return the girl's phone. When he arrived, he asked to speak to Mr Goh privately. Then, Mr Goh said, the youth took out a jack-knife from his pocket and slashed his cheek. He said his girlfriend ran forward to help, but the youth pushed her away. A tussle broke out, during which Mr Goh was stabbed. http://www.straitstimes.com/BreakingNews/S...ory_680114.html

Hi Guys, Why do most of u guys prefer Rear Wheel Drive More den Front Wheel?? Just curious n wanna knw why...

WTF....was watching the new channel 5 India A love story. The voice dub was freaking unnatural. I just can't listening to it. Its like listening to Ben Ten or Power Ranger voice over......so american cartoony drama mama.....so unreal!! The voice really spoil the mood of the show. Decided not to carry on watching it.

What things we do for love? .......... for our children, spouse, gf/bf, good friends?? Enjoy the lyric:- The Things We Do For Love Too many broken hearts have fallen down the river Too many lonely souls have drifted out to sea You lay your bets and then you pay the price The things we do for love (the things we do for love) Communication is the problem to the answer You’ve got her number and your hand is on the phone The weather’s turned and all the lines our down The things we do for love (the things we do for love) Like walking in the rain and snow When there’s nowhere to go And you’re feeling like a part of you is dying And you’re looking for the answer in her eyes You think you’re gonna break up Then she says she wants to make up Ooh, you make me love you Ooh, you’ve got a way Ooh, you’ve had me crawling up the wall (solo) Like walking in the rain and snow When there’s nowhere to go And you’re feeling like a part of you is dying And you’re looking for the answer in her eyes You think you’re gonna break up Then she says she wants to make up Ooh, you make me love you Ooh, you’ve got a way Ooh, you’ve had me crawling up the wall A compromise would surely help the situation Agree to disagree, but disagree to part Well after all it’s just a compromise For the things we do for love (the things we do for love) the things we do for love (the things we do for love) the things we do for love (the things we do for love) (fade out)

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SP student jumped from 13th floor after quarrel with sec sch girlfriend. Deceased came over to S'pore from China 10 yrs ago. Parents selll noodles at school canteen. Neighbours say deceased is polite, handsome and tall (ta ma de ... like this still commit suicide?)