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Cancer-stricken man, grateful to neighbour for nursing him, dies 5 hours after hospital solemnisation Marry me at deathbed now to inherit my flat (source: http://www.tnp.sg/news/story/0,4136,192235,00.html?) SHE was devoted to him. He was dying of cancer, and she stayed by his side, continuing to care for him even when he became incontinent and she had to bathe and clean him. They were not husband and wife, yet they did not need wedding rites to seal their love. They were legally married only when he was on his deathbed. And only because he wanted to leave his flat to her. The bride turned widow on the same day. He died hours after signing their marriage certificate. Their marriage was the most memorable one for solemniser Mr David Loh, 61, who conducted the ceremony by the 64-year-old groom's hospital bed. Though the marriage took place 61/2 years ago, on 29 August 2002, the memory is fresh in his mind. 'It was the most touching marriage I ever saw. It was the saddest, but I could feel there was so much real unconditional love between the two of them,' he said. He declined to give their names, saying he wanted to respect the privacy of the wife and her family. Mr Loh had received an urgent call the day before to solemnise the marriage. 'I didn't ask any questions when I heard the location was at the National University Hospital,' he recalled. ENDURING LOVE: The 64-year-old cancer patient, seen here with his then 50-year-old neighbour, was so weak that he could barely speak during the solemnisation at his hospital bed. It was only when he reached the venue the next day that he learnt of the circumstances of this mature couple's marriage. 'When I arrived, I was quite surprised because I saw the couple and two young women in their late 20s and they already seemed like a family to me,' he said. He had assumed the two young women were the couple's daughters from their behaviour. 'They treated the man like he was their father,' he recalled. He then found out that the two young women were the grown-up daughters of the 50-year-old bride and the groom was actually their downstairs neighbour at a block of three-room flats in Bukit Merah. 'The groom then told me that his neighbour and her two daughters had taken care of him throughout his illness and he wanted to marry her so that she could have his flat when he passed away in order to repay their kindness,' recounted Mr Loh. Sceptical of the motives of the bride-to-be, Mr Loh said he questioned the man further. 'I wanted to make sure he knew what he was doing. I asked him if he really wanted to marry the woman and if he was sure that she would become the owner of his flat should he pass away,' said Mr Loh. But the man's answer was resolute. He replied that he knew he was dying. The doctors had already told him there was nothing more they could do except give him medication to ease his pain. The man told Mr Loh that he knew he could lose consciousness soon and thus wanted to ensure that the 50-year-old woman who nursed him through his illness could inherit his three-room HDB flat. Mr Loh then spoke to the woman and her two daughters in order to find out more. 'I observed that they were indeed very attentive to him,' he recalled. 'They would wipe his mouth because he could not control his salivation, and the woman would constantly be watching him and adjusting his blanket or pillow to make sure he was as comfortable as possible.' He then learnt from the woman that she had been taking care of the man for more than a year. He had been suffering from cancer long before they met. Cooked for sick man She and her daughters took turns to clean his flat, wash his clothes, and cooked three meals a day for him. They even bathed and helped clean him when he became incontinent. 'He had to use adult diapers, and when I asked where the money for the expenses came from, the woman simply replied that as he didn't have any money, she supported him,' said Mr Loh. 'I was very moved. They were not related, yet she and her daughters were more than a family to him.' Mr Loh who has overseen 6,000 weddings as a solemniser for the past 12 years decided that he had to help the dying man fulfil his last wish. 'The groom was in a lot of pain and he could barely speak. But he forced himself to sit up for the ceremony and sign the marriage certificate,' said Mr Loh. The groom could not afford a single ward, so Mr Loh drew the curtains around the bed for privacy and conducted the solemnisation with the two daughters as witnesses. He then took his camera and took a few pictures of the couple and the family. 'I told them they must have some pictures to keep for memories. It was only during the photo-taking they smiled a little. Other than that, the atmosphere was very sad,' he recalled. Only five hours after he had solemnised the marriage, Mr Loh received a call from one of the woman's daughters that the groom had died. 'They were so helpless and at a loss as to what to do and asked me for advice,' Mr Loh said. His wife made arrangements for her husband to be cremated according to his last wishes. 'It was the shortest marriage, but it was true love. They were like real husband and wife long before they went through the formalities,' he said.

SINGAPORE (Reuters) - A Singaporean member of parliament was attacked and set on fire on Sunday by a 70-year-old man who was angry at not being given a Chinese New Year gift, the country's state broadcaster said. Seng Han Thong was taken to hospital with between 10 and 15 percent burns after the assault during a ceremony to present Chinese New Year gifts at a community club, Channel NewsAsia reported on its website. The chairman of a nearby Chinese temple Aw Swee Seng, who organised the event, also suffered burns in the rare attack in the Southeast Asian city-state known for its safety. "A man ran in, lit a bottle of kerosene and threw it at Mr Seng. Half of Mr Seng's hair was burnt ... his back suffered burns as well," a witness named Zhang was quoted as saying. "The man who threw the bottle tried to escape, but some people caught him." Temple officials said the man was disgruntled at not being selected to receive the hong bao, a red envelope with money traditionally given at Chinese New Year, which contained S$200 ($135), the broadcaster said. Singapore was the first country in Asia to fall into a recession last year. It has one of the highest GDP per capita in the world, ahead of the United States on 2007 figures, but ranks alongside Kenya for income disparity. The ruling People's Action Party (PAP), which has been in power since independence in 1965, says welfare should not be a crutch and there is no unemployment benefit. Source: Reuters http://in.reuters.com/article/worldNews/id...-37384920090111 Song bo..hello my fellow Kenyans!

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Today, I was @ SGH's carpark looking for a lot. As usual, I was circling from one corner to another. I was also si bei kan cheong as my watch showed 345 pm and I got a frigging interview at 4 pm. Drove in a stretch of carpark about 300 m long. At the start of the stretch (both left and right has lots), there was an Black Altis (SFK71nine8K) waiting. I drove right to the end, made a directional change and decided to wait at the end of the carpark, which was about.. yes... 200 to 250 m away from the black Altis and I waited. After less than 5 minutes, a chick sashayed towards me with carkeys in hand and choon choon, her car was parked beside where I was waiting. I par signal. As the chick was driving out, the black Altis, about 250 m away drove up. I was already then slotted myself into my lot. What a lucky day I thought. As I jiggered my ass outta the car, the Altis driver (50 years old plus and trying to act gangster) shouted: "Oy, why you take my lot! No need wait ah?" My response: Uncle, I waited like you. I was lucky cause i was at the right place at the right time. Uncle: If you dare you park lar! You see what happen! That fugging made me boil. KNN, lim pei late for appt and u kpkb. My response: Are u threatening me? Uncle: Who threaten who? Why u point finger at me? (His cb face so close to mine) My response: (already wanna bash him but I cannot as I rushing!) In hokkien... An chua? Li tua hung lim pei? Wa mm kia li! Lai lar! Then I realised it was 355 pm. Fugged care and continued walking. at the same time, snapped a pic of his car. In your situation, will you give up your lot for such ass wipe? Pic of his car making a directional change as I was walking away. After which, he parked beside my vehicle.

Hi Guys, I left my car outside my house while i was overseas. The car is parked legally(i.e broken white line), however, it was facing the wrong direction. So i was fined for parking in a way opposing the traffice. Got 2 tickets for the same offence on different days by URA. Any chances of writing in? Comments pse ;)

Is this in some way orchestrated.....?

Need help from the experienced bros here, is the rim pcd for the Toyota Altis and Nissan Sunny FL N16 the same?

Everytime when a taxi driver on stop to drop off or pick up passenger in front of us, we either wait patiently or filter to ove take. Don't horn them. But today, while letting off my inlaw, and kid along temple street, not more than 10 sec. I kenna horn by one taxi driver. Of all the people, it has to be a taxi driver where they need this sort of courtesy from us more than we need it, and thus I would expect some understanding especially from taxi driver on dropping off people.

I would like to get tinted films that are of the same material as the plastic that holds the rd tax disc onto the front wind screen. so i can remove and put back as and when i wan/ i am planning to get those to stick onto my side windows and leave it on when i park my car. this is to prevent ppl from looking into in. (i seldom drive the car, parked most of the time) i would very much like to get curtains but this ride's a convertible.

Though the letter is backdated, i still think it still applies now. AS A driver commuting daily, I cannot help but feel pressured and stressed driving on our roads these days. It has never been so stressful on our roads The reason? After the recent increase in speed cameras around Singapore, I have been booked twice for speeding. Now I have to be extra-careful, to the extent of being paranoid. I have never felt this way before. Prior to this, I have never received a speeding ticket though I started driving seven years ago. Previously, I had to look out for only other road users and pedestrians and cyclists. Now I have to look out for bushes and overhead bridges to check if there are any Traffic Police officers lurking with their speed camera. Not surprisingly, many of my friends who have been booked for speeding feel the same way too. I understand that the authorities need to make our roads safer, especially with so many accidents due to speeding. But the hidden speed cameras have affected our way of driving. It has never been so stressful. I travel quite a fair bit every day. So trust me, it is not easy to live with this kind of stress. Of course, there is the argument that if you stick to the rules, you do not have to worry at all. I tried driving within the speed limits and all I got were stares, honks and bad vibes from other road users who had to go out of their way to overtake me. Many times, even commercial vehicles, be it big or small, overtook me. Also, there are times when I look desperately for the speed-limit sign and, when I do not see any on a particular stretch of road, I begin to feel pressured, worrying if I am speeding or not. On certain roads it is very difficult to stick to the speed limit. For example, on a road with a downward slope, like when entering a tunnel, the car's speed will increase even if you ease off the accelerator. In such instances, I start to brake only to receive high beams from the vehicles behind. I hope the officers overseeing traffic regulations have tried driving around Singapore within the speed limits. If they have, they would have found how impractical it is to drive this way. It may be better for all vehicles, including cars, to have some device like a speed limiter, so everyone travels within the speed limits. That way, at least, I do not have to worry about speed cameras and pressure from other road users. Teng Chee Khoon

Big regional quake likely within 30 years S'pore almost sure to be affected, says top earth scientist By LEE U-WEN (SINGAPORE) A top earth scientist predicts that an earthquake measuring 8.8 or 8.9 on the Richter scale is likely to strike South-east Asia within the next 30 years - and will almost certainly cause tremors that would affect the region, including Singapore. This is the view of Professor Kerry Sieh, founding director of the new Earth Observatory of Singapore (EOS) at Nanyang Technological University, who expressed concern that too many Singaporeans have the impression that the Republic is 'disaster-safe'. 'There's no such thing as a country that is perfectly safe. The chances of Singapore being affected by another major earthquake nearby is better than 50 per cent. We are only an arm's length away, so we've got to start planning as if we could be affected by an earthquake or tsunami,' the 57-year-old told BT in an interview. Last year, when two earthquakes jolted the Indonesian island of Sumatra, hundreds of buildings in Singapore shook as a result of the ensuing tremors. Prof Sieh, who will formally begin work full-time at EOS next month, is busy wrapping up a 30-year stint as a geologist at the California Institute of Technology in the US. The EOS will focus on natural disasters in the region, including tsunamis, volcanic eruptions, earthquakes and climate change studies. While forecasting a natural disaster is one thing, convincing the man-in-the- street to take these warnings seriously is a whole different ball game, according to Prof Sieh. 'You tell people that something is happening in 30 years' time. But many, especially those in the villages in China, simply cannot relate. 'To them, their only concern is putting food on the table, or worrying about what's going to happen tomorrow. Frankly, 30 years is not a long time as far as the earth is concerned. It's still within our lifetime,' he said. The key to reaching out to the general population, he said, lies in education. He added that he has already mapped out plans to work with the Ministry of Education here to roll out a comprehensive learning package for students about how the earth functions. 'I believe that every child should have a basic, fundamental knowledge about how the planet works, why we feel tremors and how to react to them, what is the impact of climate change, and so on,' he said. His vision is to see every primary and secondary school, junior college and polytechnic have in place such a programme as part of their curriculum for the younger generation to 'learn about life'. To reach out to a wider audience, he said that it was likely the EOS would produce documentaries and films that could be used to educate Singapore and the region about natural disasters. Although the EOS will mark its official opening only next January, Prof Sieh hopes to have a sizeable number of world-class faculty on board by then. Recruitment has already begun - the target is to have 20 faculty, 70 graduate students and post-doctoral fellows, and support staff in the next five years. Even as most of the new staff are likely to be foreigners, the best way for South-east Asia to benefit in the long run is to have a steady pool of trained local earth scientists who can do good research for the region. 'It's not going to be difficult to bring the top people here. Singapore is a country that sells itself, really. The salaries are competitive and the government is highly supportive of building a solid research environment,' he said.

IF you hit someone on the road and flee from the scene of the accident, you will get into trouble with the law. But what if you knock down an animal? Well, don't think you can just drive off. Be it a person or an animal, the same law applies. Under the Road Traffic Act, if you are involved in an accident where a person or an animal is injured, you have to stop your vehicle and help the victims. If not, you can face a fine up to $3,000 or be jailed up to a year. For a subsequent conviction, you can be fined up to $5,000 or jailed up to two years. Lawyer Luke Lee told The New Paper: 'Animals are protected under the same law as humans.' And those who injure an animal in a hit-and-run case face the same penalties if the law is violated, he added. Ms Deirdre Moss, executive officer of the Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals (SPCA), said: 'Most people, unfortunately, do not think that such cases are important just because (the victim) is an animal.' Student Andrew Teo's dog was one such victim. On 4 Jun, the 23-year-old took his 2-year-old miniature schnauzer, Vodka, for their usual evening walk. At 9.45pm, they were about to cross Choa Chu Kang Crescent when a white van sped towards them. Mr Teo said he was standing on the pavement while Vodka, who was on a leash, was already on the road. On seeing the van, Mr Teo tried to pull the dog back, but Vodka slipped out of his collar and dashed across the road. It was hit by the van and blood oozed from its right ear and nostrils. Mr Teo saw the van had stopped a few metres away and two men came out. Mr Teo said that when they saw him, they quickly got back into the van and allegedly drove off. But he managed to take down its licence plate number. Three passers-by, two of whom are Mr Teo's neighbours, helped him move Vodka onto the pavement. He said: 'By that time, I knew Vodka was dead. His body was intact, but you could feel that his skull had been crushed.' Mr Teo took the dog to its vet to get a death certificate and then went to a police station to make a report. A police spokesman confirmed Mr Teo's report and said they are investigating the accident, which happened between Block 662 and Block 691A at Choa Chu Kang Crescent. The road has no pedestrian crossings or traffic lights, but Mr Teo and other residents said that it has low traffic even during the day. The vet's medical report declared Vodka dead on arrival. It suffered severe trauma to the head and chest. Mr Teo is upset that the van occupants did not stop to help and feels they must take responsibility and be punished accordingly. AWARENESS NEEDED Motorist William Neo, 28, was unaware that the penalty for hit-and-run cases is the same for both humans and animals. The project coordinator feels that motorists need to be better educated on road rules. He said: 'Most people would probably think hitting an animal is much less serious than hitting a person. 'Informing motorists of the consequences would make them think twice about driving off after hitting an animal.' The SPCA said that when pets are injured in road accidents, the owners should alert the SPCA and try to move the animals to the side of the road. But those with little experience in handling animals should not try to pick them up. They should wait for SPCA staff members to arrive, while alerting motorists to slow down and drive cautiously - the traffic police will generally assist in this area. DRIVE CAREFULLY

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Hi, Recently send spray-shop to spray paint my bumper due to some scratches and stone chips...although its the same colour code,but looking at angle,the colour did not match,the original colour from other part is more shiny. Should i go back to respray? or leave it and wax or polish?

Tragic accident along Sembawang Road which resulted the death of the car driver who is also a car dealer. http://newpaper.asia1.com.sg/news/story/0,...,160202,00.html? And chanced upon a car up for sale at sgcarmart which i think belonged to the deceased. This is not the car that was involved in the accident though. http://www.sgcarmart.com/main/info-2ANLkUMl-1000.html

Hi, Anyone have the idea of it? or anybody had the experience of it? I read thru it quite related to the ARF. But the OMV will be changed end up dep. per year of vechile increase, is that true. So, those buyimg OPC should be take awareness???

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Yesterday i was shocked to find 4-5 new scratches on the same exact spot of a deep scratch by some bxxxxxd 2 months back. The scratches this time are fine, messy but very light, i tried polish liao but to no avail... the scratches still quite obvious as 4-5 of them r quite close to each other thus making that area of scratches obvious. possible its inflicted by the same bxxxxxd. but who knows.. might be some students or kids cos my house jus right beside a school n everyday these kids hav to walk pass my ride to take bus... i jus hope the vandal get fingernails cancer (got such thing anot? haa) or his finger chronic skin rot (like foot rot)! Anyway went to HomeFix yesterday n found this http://www.formula1wax.com/html/rubbingCompounds.htm the photo on the cover very impressive leh... not sure if it works. so if any bros here use it before, can advice? Cos i read bout ScratchX... some say good some say cannot work... That door kena scratch 2 times, i dun mind try this rubbing compound, if it screw my paint, gives me more excuse to respray LOL

dear bros, i know this have been ask upteen times and would still appreciate kind advise: would not mind used car and if so will assume stocked car and everyting ok oso same make and brand just new or used.... mainly on depre and cost.... i know there are table which some bro out there have provided but believe me when it comes to deciding, extra comment or advise is still apprecaited. Both will loan full amt and max year and interest at 2.5 new and 2.9 used. a)new car price 80k, omv 21k, coe 17k b)used car 2.5 yr old price 63k,omv 29k coe 16k c)used car 3 r old price 60k, omv31k coe 23.5k both used car assume will both be either scrap or export b4 7th yr. new car assume export b4 5th yr. body assume 5k. if possible how much to top up or get back if scrapped or export. thks in advance.

I notice nowadays a lot of driver smoke and drive at the same time on expressway and normal roads. They even throw the cigarette butt after smoking. My car front screen was hit by a thrown away butt last week while driving on PIE. Govt should ban/fine driver from smoking and driving at the same time as it will cause distraction over the road condition just like handphone.

http://www.sgcarmart.com/main/info-2EIXmjr7-1136.html http://www.sgcarmart.com/main/info-2EIfefuo-1047.html same car? but different price?

Wanted to ask MCF Bros & Sis long long already. how come so many Sunnys? Driver or Car Design issue? No mean to offend anyone

Honda Civic won both the Most Reliable and Least Reliable car award in the Medium Car Category.