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Been away from MCF for abit, as i needed a detox from social media, and also cos i can't keep up with the threads HAHA. Took some time to look back and think about life, and at 30, i realise that it's a good age to take stock of life, look back on the lessons learnt in my 20s , and look ahead to an exciting future in my 30s where things will definitely be different (and my youth will definitely expire😅) I'm starting this thread to document my thoughts, and also encourage others to share the lessons they've learnt at 30 or 30ish, hopefully to reminisce on the wonderful memories, and by sharing, to hopefully motivate and inspire each other (sounds an gay but whatever) So here's mine: Honestly, i didnt expect to reach here so quickly, adulting is tough and i still feel like a kid sometimes who's not ready for the world. The 20s were spent ambitiously trying to build a career (won't mention which industry cos too obvious), navigate the pressure cooker society, learning through hard knocks (brutal colleagues and superiors) which really taught me the value of perseverance and resilience. While i wouldn't say I'm there yet, I've definitely grown. At 30, when i look back, i begin to value relationships over objectives, as you start to realise that the paper chase/rat race never ends! Therefore, it is important to know what you want to achieve in life, or what makes you content, and not mindlessly chase for the sake of it. I've also learnt that people come and go so quickly that even you struggle to come to terms with the brevity of it all. Hence, the inportance of cherishing whatever relationships you have is of utmost significance. It is a time where your connections expand (due to networking etc but you find your social circle diminishing, at least for me) Ultimately,you can never really depend on anyone except yourself (and family) as ultimately, everyone has their own lives/commitments and sombre as it may seem, it is the reality of life. On a brighter note, such experiences prepare me for my 30s, where i know the tumultuous times are only just beginning. The foundation and hard knocks serve to better prepare me for the road ahead. I'm thankful for the people who stuck by and motivate/inspire me. Three simple rules that keep me going: 1. If you dont go after what you truly want, you'll never have it 2. If you don't ask, the answer is always no. 3. If you don't step forward, you'll always be in the same place I admit I'm far, far from being there yet, or achieving anything significant in life, I've had many failures, still afraid in terms relationships due to past scares ( engaged but didn't marry) and now so scared that i sent flowers anonymously to a girl On vday but don't even there to admit that kind HAHAHHAHA If y'all wanna hear more i shall share a part 2, while gather my thoughts. Look forward with anticipation to hearing the various life lessons / reflections from the bros and sis here 😘😘😘