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Interesting and unpretentious article. For all delusional people out there who thinks our society is fair, it is not. We are not a communist country. Enjoy.... Source: http://www.allsingaporestuff.com/article/average-sporean-rich-elites-can-never-understand-our-simple-local-lifestyle Byline: Fred, ASS contributor "Dear All Singapore Stuff, I would like to share my reflections on what the upcoming SG50 anniversary means to me, based on my personal experiences as an average Singaporean. I have come to realize that the poor and lower-middle class represent an entirely different Singapore from the rich and upper-middle class. We are like two different nations. Kids from the rich and upper-middle class are different from birth. They are equipped with skills an average Singaporean will never get. They are taught to play various musical instruments, taught a variety of sports and even go for supplementary classes from a young age. Not surprisingly these kids end up doing well academically and also excel in other activities. Even if they do not succeed academically,they have the financial support and necessary connections to set up their own businesses to establish themselves. These kids dominate the better schools and will inevitably become the next generation of elites. As an end result, we have the elite producing more elites. What happens to the kids from the poor and lower middle class? The vast majority ends up in the neighbourhood schools. Less conducive environment, no guarantee of good teachers (I was once scolded by a MOE teacher for bothering her with too many questions about a humanities subject) and limited enrichment programmes. There are less opportunities for students to participate in competitions to boost their own confidence. Many cannot afford tuition. Quite a number are from broken families (myself included), and they are troubled by family problems even as they study. They also have to deal with exposure to kids who smoke, gangsters, bullies and other delinquents. These kids even have to work part-time during school holidays to increase their monthly allowance. Most end up in polytechnics or neighbourhood jcs and very few enter the local universities. Being one of the few neighbourhood school kids who entered a good jc and then a local university, I experienced a culture shock. I could not relate to the majority of my classmates in my jc. Almost everyone in my jc class stayed in a condo or landed house. I could not effectively communicate with them because I lacked relevant experiences like overseas trips as well as musical and sports talents. I couldn't understand why every outing had to involve eating at a restaurant in the city area and why there was so much spending. Most of the girls stayed in condos and frequently called others to come over for tennis games, swimming, barbecues and other frivolous celebrations. I actually felt embarrassed to be staying in a hdb flat with so few fun facilities as I could not engage my classmates in a similar manner. They had perfect families with supportive parents and they went on overseas trips every holiday in contrast to neighbourhood school people who usually worked part-time during holidays. They were seasoned travelers who had no qualms about staying overseas for weeks without their families! Same thing in university. I found that there were fewer and fewer of the neighbourhood school kids with whom I could better identify. Those I know who went on exchange programmes and overseas CIP trips were mostly scholars and wealthy people. Those with greater purchasing power also enriched their university experience with participation in marathons, camps and clubbing events whereas those who were poorer were stuck with memories of lectures and tutorials, school activities and the inevitable bank loan. Most of the rich people tend to think and behave similarly. For instance, during jc, they were taking their Grade 8 piano examinations at the same time, they took SATs while preparing for 'A' levels and later on in university, they took up driving lessons simultaneously. I could not even afford to take up driving and I didn't see the point of it because I have no car. I think the poor and lower middle class appreciate simple pastimes better. A stroll in the park, running at the stadium, playing board games or card games at a void deck or playing basketball at a public basketball court is simply too boring for the wealthier people. Window-shopping without any purchase is ridiculous to them. They will never be seen doing any of these activities and will sneer at you or look bewildered if you even suggest any of these activities. If you say that $13 is too expensive for a movie or that $70 is too much for Universal Studios, they will just scold you for complaining so much. Gradually,they will abandon you for being such a boring and negative person. I have seen enough to believe that the non-elite can never truly be part of one Singapore with the elites. We have different upbringings, different values, different lifestyles, different educational experiences and a different sense of identity. Our life goals are also different. While the elites love to say that what we see as elite is what they see as meritocracy, the hard truth is that there's such a thing as inherited meritocracy, and the non-elite lack the necessary resources and upbringing to properly compete with them. This leaves the majority of the non-elite with limited social mobility. Equality is a lie. Rather than deceive myself into thinking that there can be a true, lasting friendship with an elite person, I choose to believe that elites can never understand or appreciate simplicity while living within the comforts of their condos and landed houses. Of course, I will work hard. But I also accept the reality that I am disadvantaged relative to the wealthier segments of society. Fraternization with them will only be counter-productive to my life goals. As far as the non-elite like myself are concerned, it is best to leave the elites to their extravagant lifestyles. I strongly believe that the poor should not provide any entertainment to the rich. If we are invited to their parties, we should decline. Leave them to celebrate with their ilk. As we prepare to celebrate Singapore's golden jubilee, let's not deceive ourselves into thinking that we are all one. We certainly are not."

I'm sick of the girls in my office. Always say or do something in favour to them. Want guys to initiate everything, do everything, be it work or personal life. If don't do the way they want, they will ask if you are a guy or not. During work they are busy and keep complaining, then if I help is a must-do thing. If I never help they bad-mouth me. If I'm busy they relax, they just keep quiet, if I say them they will say they very busy and tired already. Whatever they do and their thinking is correct, mine is always wrong. Guy must do this do that, else is pussy. Then when it comes to society status and work promotion etc, they will say both gender are equal and must be treated equally. Can't stand their BS...

Part I: http://garage36.blogspot.sg/2013/11/style-society-singapore-2013-part-i.html Higher res on Facebook images: https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.10151685863412101.1073741840.263822652100&type=1

Sorry for my language in this post but I'm exasperated ... I went for a run with a buddy, carrying only my iphone and my housekeys. my buddy had nothing. halfway through the run, a stranger comes up to us - his nose is broken, his tshirt is full of blood. he asks for help as he has no money but needs to get to a hospital. he is still bleeding around his face. we are near a bus stop ... my buddy flags down a cab and it goes something like this: me: "uncle, this guy is injured badly ... his whole face is bleeding and he need help .. please take him to hospital" taxi: "no way ... he will bleed all over my taxi" me: "uncle ... im out for a jog, if i have $, i will give you right now. take my mobile no and "test". you come collect the money from me later. to and fro also can. just take him" taxi: "no way... he will dirty my cab. why should i?" me: "uncle how can you like that. i will pay for the cleaning ok? just take him" stranger: "FORGET IT LAH this guy wont help me..." (a bus comes along and the stranger, full of blood on his tshirt, just hops on. bus driver and passengers are shocked.) me to bus uncle: "uncle .. i call for ambulance ... can you wait?" bus driver doesnt understand ... shrugs ... closes the door and drives off. the passengers are looking at me, im looking at them, and i've called the ambulance. ambulance hotline says as he got on the bus ... nothing the emergency service can do ... i even gave them the bus license plate no ... but they cant do anything liao ... i really wish i took down the cab driver's license plate. this stranger had a broken nose and was still bleeding and he is somewhere out there on bus 14 to orchard road ... seriously ... there were other people nearby but they didnt even bother to help, or try to assist us since neither of us had cash handy argH!!! this is just f--king b-------t ...

Why am I not surprised http://sg.news.yahoo.com/singapore-ranks-a...-071151173.html

A timely reminder article from the good doctor to all of us road warriors... From ST Forum: http://www.straitstimes.com/premium/forum-...ociety-20121026 Road courtesy is the litmus test of civil society Published on Oct 26, 2012 SENIOR Minister of State for Education Lawrence Wong observed that an "emerging thread" in Our Singapore Conversation has been a focus on values like kindness, graciousness and compassion ("S'poreans care about values, dialogues show"; Sunday). The recent National Kindness Conference also revealed the perception that these values could be improved ("'We are kind, but we could be kinder'"; Sunday). Road accidents involving pedestrians, cyclists and motorists suggest that this problem has much to do with the lack of discipline, courtesy, kindness and graciousness. What is perhaps not sufficiently stressed is that many motorists do not observe basic road etiquette and rules when driving. The highway code test teaches learner drivers to use directional signs when turning, switching lanes, overtaking and slowing down, yet it is commonplace to see our drivers in Singapore flouting these vital indicators, and, to add insult to injury, displaying ugly manners. The consequences are obviously more serious because collisions, injuries and fatalities are the result. Few motorists, for example, use the left or right indicator to show their intentions. Many motorists also tend to speed and cause anxiety for other road users. There is no substitute for complying with the strict driving rules, combined with common-sense driving habits. Steps should be taken to ensure that driving instructors spare no effort in directing learner drivers to observe basic road rules and manners, and in emphasising compliance with highway code rules. There should also be strict enforcement of the rules, and deterrent action should be taken against errant and reckless motorists. At a time when we are pondering on ways to make our future brighter and more meaningful, it should be remembered that road manners are often a good indicator of how a society has progressed in terms of civil behaviour. V. Subramaniam (Dr)

Despite what the cabby might have said or done, her FB's unwarranted comments on this taxi driver was really hitting below the belt and downright insulting.. [shakehead] From STOMP: http://singaporeseen.stomp.com.sg/stomp/sg..._a_failure.html Posted on 13 Jun 2012 Woman calls cabbies a failure and tells them: 'Know your place in society' STOMPer Fran said her friend came across these posts on Facebook, in which a woman rants about a taxi driver, and how he should know his place in society. The STOMPer's friend felt that this woman should not be so rude to the cabby. Said the STOMPer: "My friend spotted this on Facebook and sent it to me. "She said,' Who is she to call the cabby a failure when he is the one doing a service to her? It does not matter whether the cabby actually 'talked back' to her, she shouldn't be so rude to him. Moreover, she had to say he lacked education and skill. Well, at least he has a decent job to support his family'."

Dear drivers, I have been seeing more and more videos appearing online shaming road bullies and inconsiderate road users. If one fine day you saw your face or car appearing online flashing across the major forums, who would you continue your life here? Imagine that your family, relatives and colleagues see your behavior fully exposed? By saying this, do you try to spot for car camera when you are enraged by the other parties behavior before you give him a piece of your mind?

‎ 'tis end of year, traditionally, a time for drinking and making merry. however, for some children, there's no joy to be had, so i would like to appeal for donations for Singapore Children's Society's fund-raising project, which "helps protect and nurture children and youth of all races and religions, especially those who are abused, neglected, and/or from dysfunctional familities". Can donate as a forum and get MCF logo onto a pixel for a paltry min of only $500! Get ur employer, group of friends, team, gang, cult, etc to donate $500 to have ur logo on a pixel of the heart: http://www.pixelheart.org.sg/

Hmmmmm............... ESM Goh say so, he haven get to the ground to feel yet since after election ...... Yahoo news report : We

PRC woman forces marriage on Sec 3 boy Lianhe Wanbao 5 September 2011 A Chinese national woman had reportedly forced her boyfriend, a local secondary three boy to marry her. The woman is 26, holds a student pass and is in Singapore to study, while the sec three boy comes from a comfortable background and is an introvert. The two were introduced to each other at a friend's birthday party and had exchanged phone numbers. Because she sported youthful looks and a babyface, the boy did not suspect that she was in fact 11 years older than him. Soon after their first meeting, the woman courted the boy aggressively with messages and online chats. The two soon progressed to become a couple. Three to four months later, the woman initiated sex with the boy. After the two became intimate, she began to pressure him to marry her. The boy did not know what to do and in the end asked his parents for help. This case was cited by a counsellor as an example of another tactic used by Chinese national women to snag Singaporean husbands. Besides matchmaking and introductions through friends and relatives, some Chinese national women use student passes to look for husbands in Singapore. These women, sometimes girls as young as 17, may get pregnant with a Singaporean boyfriend and insist on marriage. According to the counsellor, some of these women marry to acquire Singaporean citizenship, then using this as a stepping board to go to US or Australia.

Mother + Father + 3 daughters abuse youngest son. They want to kill him ??? No racist remarks please. http://www.straitstimes.com/BreakingNews/S...ory_686082.html Family of five charged with child abuse A FAMILY of five have been charged in court with child abuse. The couple and their three daughters aged 14, 20 and 24, faced between one and 14 charges. The 44-year-old woman, together with her daughters, allegedly splashed hot cooking oil on the 10-year-old boy's body, causing him to be permanently disfigured on the head and face in February 2011. They are also said to have pressed a heated ladle on his body and used a pair of scissors to snip his fingers last month. The three younger women - together with their 45-year-old father who is divorced - are accused of splashing hot water on the boy's body at their home in Hougang in 2009. The 44-year-old woman also faces a dozen other charges alone of hurting, threatening and using criminal force on the boy between 2009 and May 2011. Among other things, she is said to have splashed hot water and oil on him, scalded him with a hot iron, and pressed a hot ladle on his body and face. The four adults have been remanded for psychiatric examination and their cases will come up for mention in two weeks. The boy is currently under the care of the Ministry of Community Development, Youth and Sports.

Poor waiter.

Cleaners 'worth more to society' than bankers By Martin Shankleman, Employment correspondent, BBC News Hospital cleaners are worth more to society than bankers, a study suggests. The research, carried out by think tank the New Economics Foundation, says hospital cleaners create

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Talking about a gracious society, I got slighted by a maid! I was on leave, enjoying my laps in the pool, when she came down with 4 kids, about 4-5 yrs old, and they recklessly swam about and sometimes even deliberately into my path. The first time I swam into them, I spoke nicely to one of the girls, but they continued to do it, resulting a couple more near misses. Speaking more sternly to the kids this time, they end up booing and blabbering. I went up to the maid, probably a pinoy or indonesian, and asked her if the kids were her charges, which she acknowledged. But when I told her to remind the kids not to cut the path of a swimmer as they may get injured, and its better to get them to swim in one corner, because if two of them are in trouble at different ends of the pool, it would be hard to rescue both of them. The maid totally ignored me! Those kids are probably offsprings of SPGs with ang mor husbands, and the maid whom is under their employment thinks they are too high class to talk to a local singaporean. Makes me think why I did my 2 years of NS, only to become a second class citizen to the expatriates in this damn country

This driver also another one....just park and walk off lah.... http://singaporeseen.stomp.com.sg/singapor...nt.jsp?id=46363

saw this on the web... read 3rd paragraph, hahaha http://www.brainskills.co.uk/CopingWithADHD.html Ritalin belongs to a class of drugs related to amphetamines called stimulants. These drugs are not addictive and do not make the child feel high. They help children to focus and function better at home, at school and while socialising. This can be a godsend to families that were disrupted by ADHD and the improved ability to focus on schoolwork may influence the child's whole future, including his career prospects. He may be less likely to suffer from emotional problems and addictions later. Wonder Drug or Cocaine for Kiddies? The highest rates of Ritalin prescription are in Singapore, where academic achievement drives society. In some parts of the US 1 in 10 schoolchildren are taking Ritalin. In the UK it's closer to 1 in 100, and rising. Some groups, such as certain religious fundamentalists are strongly opposed to what they call "cocaine for kiddies". They feel that ADHD causes "tunnel vision" in the system, so that the context of behavioural problems can sometimes be ignored, and the attitude of a "pill for life's problems" can be encouraged. Sceptics question the objectivity of academics whose research is funded by the drug companies that have profited hugely from ADHD. But most experts agree that Ritalin is effective and pretty safe. It can transform the existence not only of a suffering child, but also of parents and siblings when it's used appropriately. The main disagreement is over where to draw the line in the question of who really needs it. Side effects range from common sleep disturbances to rare heart problems. Nobody wants Ritalin to become a way for pushy parents to improve the achievements of a normal child. According to some this has already happened. What About Other Treatments? In most cases, both the child and family benefit from counselling and a variety of other interventions can also be helpful. These include psychotherapy, behavioural therapy, social skills training, support groups and parental skills training. Is there Anything I can do to Help my Child? Yes. Experts agree that parents can help with simple behavioural interventions. ADHD children need consistency. For example, help him to organise. Have a fixed daily routine, including homework time, mealtime, bedtime and playtime. Write out a schedule of activities, stick it up on the fridge, and if there's a change, make it in advance if you can. Make a fixed place for all his things like clothes, bags, schoolwork, pencil case and make sure that those things are kept in their places. Remind him to write down homework tasks and bring home needed books. Try to have clear, consistent rules, for example, about TV watching and rudeness. Try to reduce disruptions and distractions like TV or siblings in the room at homework time. Work together with school or nursery teachers on coping strategies for everyone. What About the Future

Kudos to the Foreign workers for stopping this a$$hole from leaving http://newpaper.asia1.com.sg/news/story/0,4136,152351,00.html? TEEN TAKES SHIRT OFF AND TRIES TO FLEE [*]Teen goes wild when driver tells him to move to back [*]He punches driver in eye [*]Driver grabs his shirtBy Celine Lim January 04, 2008 ? [/color][/url] IT was a simple request to move towards the back of the bus. [/url] Despite his injury, Mr Edward held the youth's arm to prevent him from getting away. Pictures: SHIN MIN DAILY NEWS But that was all it took to anger a teenager, who ended up punching a SMRT bus captain in the face. This incident on New Year's Day is the most recent of three assaults on bus captains in the past week. The drama that started on board bus service 961 played out before the eyes of some residents of a Bukit Timah condominium on Tuesday. A ninth-storey resident, who wanted to be known only as Mrs Ong, 39, said her dinner preparations were disrupted at 7.40pm by loud shouting. She looked out of her window and saw more than 20 passengers alighting from a bus that had stopped, in the process of pulling out of the bus bay. The housewife said: 'There was a commotion at the bus stop. Five or six foreign workers had formed a ring around a boy to stop him from leaving.' She said the workers left when the bus captain alighted from his vehicle. Thinking the drama was over, Mrs Ong returned to her dinner. But that was when the confrontation escalated into blows. An SMRT spokesman said the bus captain was 'injured in the eye' from punches thrown by the youth. A police spokesman said the victim, a man in his early 30s, was later sent to the National University Hospital (NUH) with facial injuries. The bus captain, who wanted to be known only as Mr Edward, told Shin Min Daily News that he had held the youth's arm to prevent him from leaving. Quick as lightning, the teen swung his fist at the driver three times and hit him before breaking free from the latter's grasp. 'After the teen shook me off, I managed to grab his T-shirt, but he slipped it off and tried to leave,' Mr Edward said. The problem began when the youth and a female friend stood too close to the rear door, preventing it from closing. When the captain asked them to move towards the rear, the boy got angry. VERBAL ABUSE Mr Edward said: 'He started shouting vulgarities at me. He then walked up and asked if I was not happy with him. 'I asked him to calm down or I'd call the police to handle the matter.' When the youth continued his verbal abuse, the driver called the police on his handphone. The teen then alighted from the bus, but was prevented from leaving by the foreign workers. Mrs Ong said she heard shouting again a few minutes after the workers had walked away. 'The bus captain had quite a big build and was taller than the teen, who looked about 18 or 19 years old. But the teen was very aggressive. He acted like a hooligan.' She said when the shirtless teen walked away from the bus stop, the captain followed him and pushed his head. 'It was quite dangerous as they were pushing each other on the left lane of the road.' The teen then hailed a taxi but the cabby refused to drive off after Mr Edward related what had happened. The bus captain and teen then walked back to the bus stop. After the police and paramedics arrived soon after, Mrs Ong saw the youth being taken away in a police car. The police said investigations are ongoing. Two SBS Transit bus captains were also assaulted in the past week. Ms Tammy Tan, director of corporate communications, SBS Transit, said the assailants in both cases appeared to be drunk. She said a passenger boarded SBS Transit service 240 at Boon Lay Way 'reeking of alcohol' last Friday at 7.35pm. The man ignored bus captain Woo Chee Wha's requests to pay up at first, but did so eventually. However, a few bus stops later, the man alighted from the rear door. He then got on the bus again from the front entrance and, without any warning, punched Mr Woo. Three other passengers immediately went to the captain's aid and stopped the man from fleeing. The police arrived soon after, and an ambulance took Mr Woo to the NUH where he was given outpatient treatment for a 'swollen, bruised eye'. He is on six days' medical leave. Ms Tan said: 'We know that there are many good Samaritans out there who have tried to stop such abuse. We thank them for their help. 'We continue to seek the assistance of all commuters to report such abuses to the police should they witness any.' She said assaults on bus captains have nearly doubled from 14 cases in 2006 to 26 cases in 2007. Bus captains have been 'slapped, punched and even kicked', she noted. 'Such brutish behaviour is inexcusable... since it is causing hurt to people who are just doing their job.' In an incident last Saturday at 4.40pm, a young man was 'creating a racket' on board SBS Transit service 58, said Ms Tan. Bus captain Tommy Yong asked the operations control centre for help as the passenger 'appeared drunk'. But before the traffic inspector could arrive, the passenger had punched Mr Yong's nose, which started to bleed profusely. By then, all the passengers had alighted. A call was made to the police. An ambulance took the bus captain to Changi General Hospital. He suffered a fractured nose and requires specialist medical follow-up treatment. Ms Tan said SBS Transit will not hesitate to 'take action against... assailants where appropriate'. She said: 'We... are dismayed at what some commuters have done to our bus captains, particularly during the festive season... 'The only saving grace is that the number of cases dropped in the second half of 2007 after we launched the ‘Stop Bus Captain Assaults' campaign in June.' The assault cases decreased from 18 in the first six months to eight in the second half of the year.