Lying ex-wife to be and custody

[Vid]

there's a reason why ....me so choosy.

 

being a virgin, my first time damn special you know

[RadX]

there's a reason why ....me so choosy.

 

being a virgin, my first time damn special you know ðð

You virgin

 

I be the next pope!

there's a reason why ....me so choosy.

 

being a virgin, my first time damn special you know ðð

Better warn the next guy who went away to find a wife

 

3 years down we will see Deja vu

[t0y0ta]

There are many such psychological movies.... To the TS, he is being abused and his kid threatened by his wife..... When the scene fades to reality, actually his wounds are self inflected and his wife is trying to shield his kid from this hallucinating man

[Ash2017]

You virgin

 

I be the next pope!

Better warn the next guy who went away to find a wife

 

3 years down we will see Deja vu

Yes Your Holy Father

[Angcheek]

Yes Your Holy Father

 

no wonder so many Gay and Lesb in this world .............  

[Angcheek]

there's a reason why ....me so choosy.

 

being a virgin, my first time damn special you know

[Sosaria]

When in a bad situation can feel very depressed and despondent.

 

But need to step back and see things from a better perspective.

 

After the big D no need to see the witch again right?

 

Have a thought for some of his who have it worse.

 

We have to see the old bat till the end of life. Hers or mine.

 

If anyone wants to send me a donation just pm me I will come round and pick it up personally.

 

 

Divorce is suffering.

 

Single is suffering.

 

But those married also suffering.

 

Just in different ways.

 

We should all learn to appreciate what we have, besides yearning for the "other side of the coin".

Edited August 14, 2019 by Sosaria

[Soya]

Start a thread ......... WHEN YOU LOST YOUR V

Ahemmmm....might be a short thread since the event only started yesterday

[Fuelsaver]

I am not sure can you still living under same roof with your partner that took a knife at you and show you a stabbing gesture. I can't and I have to get out.

I will fight the custody till high court if I have to. a sole custody win will be great, otherwise I have to walk out for the sake of my health. And i already branded selfish by couple close friend of mine. She will use my son to get attention from me which is very unfair to my boy to have to subject for I know what kind of abuse to my boy? Come at me but not my son.

 

Tried and failed.

 

And yes I am very worry if she lost the custody, she may take her own life and perhaps with my son together. She threaten to end her life before but I managed to pull her back. Her way of process words is scary and I am scare.

 

Just completed the PPO, going to present whatever evidence I have to court. waiting for date.

Bro, I'm not trying to be funny here, but from above post, I suggest both you n your wife go for some serious counselling, if not psychiatric treatment. This is for the sake of the child. Either one of you get custody also not beneficial to child. Sorry if I have to say both of you are potentially not in a healthy mental state at current, with thoughts of ending your lives. Perhaps both of you are struggling with parenthood, differences in expectations, and probably financial issues. I pray both of you can overcome this trying period, amen.

 

Perhaps you may wish to talk to your wife without the child around during daytime in a quieter setting outside. I think such setting in daytime elevates the mood somehow and is more likely to prevent negative thoughts from coming into mind. God bless.

[Staff69]

 

 

 

[Tianmo]

there's a reason why ....me not so choosy.

 

being an ex-virgin, my first time was damn special you know

[Tianmo]

You virgin

 

I be the next pope!

Better warn the next guy who went away to find a wife

 

3 years down we will see Deja vu

 

 

do we happen to have one here already?     

[Tianmo]

Tianmo I know you are good BUT did not know you are that good

 

you really Tua Ki

 

 

If that is TS, then all the more he should try to help himself 

 

I didnt do it on purpose, it was an accidental finding. 

 

But the one thing that caught my attention was here TS said the wife took the son away, in the link, the man took the son away. Otherwise the content seem quite similar, so I thought mayb I sld just highlight it here.. 

 

But if you give such sound advice more often, I guess you could be more welcome here...    

[RadX]

 

Divorce is suffering.

 

Single is suffering.

 

But those married also suffering.

 

Just in different ways.

 

We should all learn to appreciate what we have, besides yearning for the "other side of the coin".

3 rings of marriage

 

Marriage RING

 

child beaRING

 

sufferRING

do we happen to have one here already?

Go to that find wife thread

Let us give you the benefit of doubt.

 

I hear alot from you and it seems to me you are verbalizing all the "pains" you have gone through to justify your actions and perhaps even to re-inforce why you must go through the "fight" be it custody or etc.

 

It seems you are going through an emotional roller coaster and you are hoping for one "true success" or "score" to prove something.

 

Yes, it is very painful knowing that people lie but sometimes they may be NOT exactly lying because it all about perspective. I say you are handsome but down right you know you are the ulgiest thing that God has ever made. I lied to protect your feelings. Is this lie a good or bad thing? In a relationship, however, sometimes, people lie because they cannot accept what is happening. Sometimes people lie to protect everyone. Give you another example: you may want the divorce so badly but your wife or ex-wife may not want. Because she still loves you and know that is what you so badly, she lied you make you not only dislike her but hate her so that your resolute to divorce is firm up. This is a true story from a couple many years ago. It was after a span of more than 15 or 20 years later, the husband learn the truth, then it was just too late, he visited her to apologize and kneeing asking for forgiveness every year, it was at her grave.

 

If you have already made up your mind about the divorce, why keep re-televised your unhappy experience with your wife or ex-wife over and over again in your head.

 

Marriage is your choice and should have nothing to do with your relatives. You know exactly what I meant as they were not instrument in producing your son. So don't go blaming or using them to justify your action.

 

Ask yourself your actions? You said it was because of your presence and to spite you, she harm the baby. Now that you are no longer in her presence what the provocation is lost. So no need for you to worry.

 

You are "playing up" your own worries for your son to justify the need to get hold of custody of your son. You must be truthful too that in no small part is "revenge" to get even. You gave the example of hot water without testing before giving to your son. Well you know she is a first time mother right. There are worst moms around despite their great love for their child. These things can be thought.

 

You have to realized bringing up a child is a join effort. Not everything must go by your way or her way because the child has only 50% of each of your genes. So sometimes you have to close one eye on occasion you need to close two eyes and pretend you cannot see.

 

You have to stop torturing yourself and trying to brainwash yourself that your wife or ex-wife is a hopeless mother. You know being a mother is an on the job training. Furthermore if there is anything untowards it would have picked up by the social workers or other professional bodies including the judge. So rest assured she "had been screened". Don't take these professional to be dumb because they general can see through lies.

 

To the judge, what difference is there if you lie or she lie when the lies are there to help secure a definite divorce. Regardless you still need to pay maintenance that is the law until she becomes gainfully employed or married of or you become a complete bankrupt without income.

 

How it finally end between the three of you, remember you are one but of the three, and you are one of the three capable of ending this well or ending with multi-scaring on everyone. The choice is yours.

 

A friendly advice, a stable and good ending is best for your case when there is a child involved. Otherwise you are making your own live miserable and your child may turn out to hate the two of you and not just one of you. Each of you poisoning each other to him will turn him into a social misfit thinking that relationships are all f-uped. Don't believe go ask your lawyer, social worker or even the judge.

 

I think I wrote enough and this is not the place to seek advice, you need the wisdom and maturity to move forward. Easier said than done BUT if you don't put in effort to try, you are likely to screw up the same person you are trying to protect.

When your meds are in stock, you are pretty level headed in your posts

 

Pls keep the medicines consistently flowing

An excellent post my nemesis

[Tianmo]

Go to that find wife thread

 

 

I think I sld have said, "dont we already have one here", whom always have some 2 cents comments....    

[RadX]

I think I sld have said, "dont we already have one here", whom always have some 2 cents comments....

Hahahahaha

 

Wait the 2cents will grow to asking ppl for their 2cents should the same happen to him

do we happen to have one here already?

And ya I actually meant him

 

Shd have removed the “next” to “current “

[Tianmo]

Let us give you the benefit of doubt.

 

I hear alot from you and it seems to me you are verbalizing all the "pains" you have gone through to justify your actions and perhaps even to re-inforce why you must go through the "fight" be it custody or etc.

 

It seems you are going through an emotional roller coaster and you are hoping for one "true success" or "score" to prove something.

 

Yes, it is very painful knowing that people lie but sometimes they may be NOT exactly lying because it all about perspective. I say you are handsome but down right you know you are the ulgiest thing that God has ever made. I lied to protect your feelings. Is this lie a good or bad thing? In a relationship, however, sometimes, people lie because they cannot accept what is happening. Sometimes people lie to protect everyone. Give you another example: you may want the divorce so badly but your wife or ex-wife may not want. Because she still loves you and know that is what you so badly, she lied you make you not only dislike her but hate her so that your resolute to divorce is firm up. This is a true story from a couple many years ago. It was after a span of more than 15 or 20 years later, the husband learn the truth, then it was just too late, he visited her to apologize and kneeing asking for forgiveness every year, it was at her grave. 

 

If you have already made up your mind about the divorce, why keep re-televised your unhappy experience with your wife or ex-wife over and over again in your head. 

 

Marriage is your choice and should have nothing to do with your relatives. You know exactly what I meant as they were not instrument in producing your son. So don't go blaming or using them to justify your action.

 

Ask yourself your actions? You said it was because of your presence and to spite you, she harm the baby. Now that you are no longer in her presence what the provocation is lost. So no need for you to worry.

 

You are "playing up" your own worries for your son to justify the need to get hold of custody of your son. You must be truthful too that in no small part is "revenge" to get even. You gave the example of hot water without testing before giving to your son. Well you know she is a first time mother right. There are worst moms around despite their great love for their child. These things can be thought. 

 

You have to realized bringing up a child is a join effort. Not everything must go by your way or her way because the child has only 50% of each of your genes. So sometimes you have to close one eye on occasion you need to close two eyes and pretend you cannot see.

 

You have to stop torturing yourself and trying to brainwash yourself that your wife or ex-wife is a hopeless mother. You know being a mother is an on the job training. Furthermore if there is anything untowards it would have picked up by the social workers or other professional bodies including the judge. So rest assured she "had been screened". Don't take these professional to be dumb because they general can see through lies.

 

To the judge, what difference is there if you lie or she lie when the lies are there to help secure a definite divorce. Regardless you still need to pay maintenance that is the law until she becomes gainfully employed or married of or you become a complete bankrupt without income. 

 

How it finally end between the three of you, remember you are one but of the three, and you are one of the three capable of ending this well or ending with multi-scaring on everyone. The choice is yours.

 

A friendly advice, a stable and good ending is best for your case when there is a child involved. Otherwise you are making your own live miserable and your child may turn out to hate the two of you and not just one of you. Each of you poisoning each other to him will turn him into a social misfit thinking that relationships are all f-uped. Don't believe go ask your lawyer, social worker or even the judge. 

 

I think I wrote enough and this is not the place to seek advice, you need the wisdom and maturity to move forward. Easier said than done BUT if you don't put in effort to try, you are likely to screw up the same person you are trying to protect.

 

 

Diu nia seng!!!

 

You have 3 posts for the TS here, and not often I am willing to praise all 3. 

 

I praised 2, can only come back for this one later....    

Edited August 14, 2019 by Tianmo

[Tianmo]

Hahahahaha

 

Wait the 2cents will grow to asking ppl for their 2cents should the same happen to him

And ya I actually meant him

 

Shd have removed the “next” to “current “

 

 

Remember someone told us he is a "NICE GUY"? so hopefully no need see new thread....     

 

And hor, forget the "next" or "current", just keep to "the"....