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S’pore woman mocks girl for needing NS “boyfriend” to feed her, backfires, woman gets flamed instead ** go to the url for the extracts and video ** It’s best to be careful before passing judgment online. On Aug. 16, a Facebook user shared a video of a couple having dinner. A man wearing what appears to be an air force uniform can be seen helping feed the woman seated next to him. The user, we’ll call her Tan, claimed that her father had seen the couple while having dinner, and that it almost made his “blood boil”. Tan commented on the woman’s looks, perhaps sarcastically, comparing her to Taiwanese singer Hebe Tien, previously of Taiwanese girl group, S.H.E. She also commented on her behaviour during the meal, finding it repellent that the woman was behaving in an overly-affectionate manner, and asked why she did not feed herself. This drew a number of like-minded comments on the post at first, with some agreeing with Tan on the woman’s “nauseating” behavior: Others “blamed” the man: New informationHowever, it turned out that there was more to the “couple” than Tan and others had first assumed. A comment had been left on another page, supposedly from the parents of the woman in the video. According to the message, she is intellectually disabled. The man in the video is a friend of hers, who brings their daughter out every day even though he is doing National Service, helping her to live as normal a life as possible. It didn’t insult Tan, but instead asked her to explain the situation to her father and sought her understanding. BacklashWith this new information, the tone of the comments changed too. In fact, most of the comments after that criticised Tan for taking the video, defended the right of the “couple” to do whatever they please regardless of anyone’s condition. Which is incredibly heartening. Tan took down the video from her Facebook page at about 4:45 pm on Aug. 16.