Bazi

[Hiphiphoray]

i have already taken many steps back. Orelse she wouldnt be where she is now.

 

When our kids were young. Im always the one taking leave to care for them. Taking intiative on family matters.

 

She only pays more bills and tag along with my decision.

 

i dont mind being last on the list.......and only recent years then i realise the income gap is widen beyond catch up.

 

Did i pass on my career for kids for nothing ?

 

Now that she is THERE.....she wants to do everything. Bills, kids, decision, everything except me. When the hell will be my turn for some decent attention ????? 60 years old ?????????

 

Dont even mention about Sex life......its been crap all along.

 

Just need one party to take a step back and things probably will be "rain over sky bright".

You have to like all your partner's short comings, the rest (the good ones) will be bonuses.

 

[RadX]

Yes bro, I feel for you. Tough call. May need professional intervention.

[Hiphiphoray]

Im trying like mad all along.

 

I talk too firm, she say im scolding her. Dont say....she happily take for granted and do more things i dont like.

 

i see our kids i forgive and forget. But i just cant continue to do the same recently. I want to know why.

 

Bazi does tell a lot about a person's characteristics and temperament, I was personally spooked when I was given a character breakdown by the master I met for the first time, characteristics that I don't show when I meet a person for the first time.

 

That said, it can be a good tool to help a couple understand each other's temperament, with the aim of minimizing conflicts in the relationship. But it may not be such a good idea to be obsessed with events that are predicted through one's bazi.

 

[Jman888]

you remembered and calculating

 

 

 

i have already taken many steps back. Orelse she wouldnt be where she is now.

 

When our kids were young. Im always the one taking leave to care for them. Taking intiative on family matters.

 

She only pays more bills and tag along with my decision.

 

i dont mind being last on the list.......and only recent years then i realise the income gap is widen beyond catch up.

 

Did i pass on my career for kids for nothing ?

 

Now that she is THERE.....she wants to do everything. Bills, kids, decision, everything except me. When the hell will be my turn for some decent attention ????? 60 years old ?????????

 

Dont even mention about Sex life......its been crap all along.

 

[RadX]

you remembered and calculating

 

shd be like u har...old fart...canot rem anything.....all is bliss

[Hiphiphoray]

So far.....i always take the intiaitve and open my mouth and let us have the benefit of the doubt.

 

But always, its one ear in one ear out..........she will try for a while then things go back to square one. And my frustration grows bigger.

 

Example....i told her once a month take half day we do something together. Anything...watch movie, cycle at east coast, anything without the kids.

 

Already almost 10 years we gave our time for the kids........we should take a small step back for couple time.

 

When was the last time we went holiday as a couple ? Since year 2000!!!! UNBelievable. And she always shut out when i raise this issue. Work + kids is always first.

 

think most couples' quarrel are similar.. watching the 9pm ch8 show and most of the stuff the couples bicker abt are similar or exactly the same as mine.

 

[Hiphiphoray]

My wife's bazi is strong right ? Machiam like empress dowager!!!

 

IMHO....she is getting power that she cant control.

 

Strange right.....many people dont mind wify earns more (much more).

 

Duno why i feel the opposite.

 

hhh, this is another one i find it quite accurate.. Bazi

many cheem ancient tiong words though..

 

i had to google those words for further explanation

words like 邵康節四字斷終生: 涼夜行舟 and 丁火 and it will reveal a lot more in those other articles.. no need to actually pay a master to decipher it

 

[Mazdaowner]

Bro. Take a step or three steps back, a really deep breath, a long cold drink and relax.

The more of the bad things you think about, the worse it becomes. Even for me, 26yrs

I've had my fights and said the "D" word many a times to my wife. He pay is no where near mine,

we fight for other reasons. Stupid things like, me having to keep repeating what I say, she doesn't listen,

pays more attention to my bloody cats then listen to what I'm saying. Among other issues.

 

If both keep going loggerheads at each other, there will be no winner, both will lose, loose the scanty of

this marriage. My suggestion is, wait cool down, weekend comes, speak to her in private, keep your

composure, and speak your mind to her on everything that is going on, work and iron things out, nothing is impossible,

to every mathematical equation, there is ALWAYS a solution, it's just a question of how you derive to the answer.

Don't look at the kids, look at yourselves.

 

 

Im trying like mad all along.

 

I talk too firm, she say im scolding her. Dont say....she happily take for granted and do more things i dont like.

 

i see our kids i forgive and forget. But i just cant continue to do the same recently. I want to know why.

 

[Hiphiphoray]

The thing is...i notice she does most of the "right"" thing as per bazi.

 

OMG......now then i notice.

 

Even the kids she does something.

 

For me....none.

 

Hi HHH, sometimes all of us will go through an extremely unlucky patch where certain things seems in trouble and situation not looking bright. but most of the time, it is just a passing phase and things will look up again when its over. I'm sure if the foundation of your marriage with your CO is strong, it will stand strong and not waver eventually when subjected to such "tests". Hence, wanting to tell you not to get unduly worried when such conflicts broke out between both of you. But of cos looking at bazi can be good in a way that you know what are the differences in the elements between both of you and work towards improving the relationship..its a bit like knowing the strengths and weaknesses and working towards a compromise with one another..

 

[Mazdaowner]

In most if not all marriages, fights will always be on two issues: Money and kids.

if no extra marital affairs of the heart prevail.

 

I didn't even go for a movie with my wife for 15yrs, and we still don't now either. Holidays are not holidays, but to visit my in laws. Bro. work first, play later. Kids still young, your wife isn't wrong to say such.

 

So far.....i always take the intiaitve and open my mouth and let us have the benefit of the doubt.

 

But always, its one ear in one ear out..........she will try for a while then things go back to square one. And my frustration grows bigger.

 

Example....i told her once a month take half day we do something together. Anything...watch movie, cycle at east coast, anything without the kids.

 

Already almost 10 years we gave our time for the kids........we should take a small step back for couple time.

 

When was the last time we went holiday as a couple ? Since year 2000!!!! UNBelievable. And she always shut out when i raise this issue. Work + kids is always first.

 

[Jman888]

Im trying like mad all along.

 

I talk too firm, she say im scolding her. Dont say....she happily take for granted and do more things i dont like.

 

i see our kids i forgive and forget. But i just cant continue to do the same recently. I want to know why.

 

 

there are different part of management, managing bosses is also an art/skill hence all you need is focus how to manage her not the small small issue at home cos if you manage her well, the rest is nothing

[Hiphiphoray]

The thing is she knows and i dont.

 

And that is a damn huge blow to me.

 

Im very sure there are other things..........im sick to the bone and i can barely do anything about it.

 

Better not to know.

 

[Jman888]

if you cannot handle and let go, please dun try to find out.

 

However, if you only wish to know a specific area (marriage, wealth, career) then do just that, knowing too much will mess up your thought and probably your life

 

Yes...Absoultely. Cos i just found out she also got her friend to look at our family bazi long before. Just that i dont know.

 

Only recently, suddenly she keep cripping at our kids bazi, her boss, collegues except for mine & hers.

 

Apparently she knows things i dont and didnt tell me. And that totally drives me nuts.

 

[Hiphiphoray]

i always view life openly. Take steps back to recoup and come out stronger.

 

She on the other hand she excell on pressure.....the more the better.

 

We come out stronger the opposite way.

 

Is your income and career status lower than her? It looks like more on the mismatch of expectation within the marriage. my bil also under a lot of pressure and always quarrel with wife cause his wife has higher social status and from a well to do family background. No price for guessing it right who call the shot within the family most of the time..

 

[Hiphiphoray]

The only time she can afford is a trip to bangkok with kids.

 

After all the talk......its still the kids.

 

Thereafter......she travells to Europe, US on so call business trips. Sibeh happy.

 

My holiday is the to/fro trip from home to office for the past 10 years and surely for the next 10 as well.

 

God damn it............i hate this life so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

imo, quarrels origin from differences, and stress level.

perhaps she is stressed up at work? or something she cannot solve?

if u are not able to offer advice for work, what about household/other matters?

 

perhaps plan to going out for a break/vacation?

 

marriage is about compromises.. the other party also need to recognize it too.

i believe u guys have come so far already..

don't let it deteriorate into the D word. both will need to work it out together..

 

of course.. emotionally, both (and children will suffer)

and in addition, D is never financially good for men in singapore..

 

[Jman888]

i always view life openly. Take steps back to recoup and come out stronger.

 

She on the other hand she excell on pressure.....the more the better.

 

We come out stronger the opposite way.

 

 

you two need a marriage counselor more than fortune teller, serious.

 

if the bazi tells a horrible ending, what will you do? prepare to walk out? or continue to suffer? then you start to think can still patch and work out something, isn't that back to the counseling part. Or you take it as a blessing to walk out without guilt?

[RadX]

you two need a marriage counselor more than fortune teller, serious.

 

if the bazi tells a horrible ending, what will you do? prepare to walk out? or continue to suffer? then you start to think can still patch and work out something, isn't that back to the counseling part. Or you take it as a blessing to walk out without guilt?

 

if bazi say jump down, can I approach HHH?

[Mazdaowner]

Then divorce and don't keep harping about it here. Just do it.

We tell you all the solutions, but you just choose to ignore,

nothing anyone here can do for you. One coin has two sides,

so far we only SEE one side of the story.

 

The only time she can afford is a trip to bangkok with kids.

 

After all the talk......its still the kids.

 

Thereafter......she travells to Europe, US on so call business trips. Sibeh happy.

 

My holiday is the to/fro trip from home to office for the past 10 years and surely for the next 10 as well.

 

God damn it............i hate this life so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!