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[Ahhuat]

Guys, you may give opinions & it won't be treated as an answer...

 

How will you react when your hubby told you that he wanna look for another job & he don't mind getting lower pay then now... He even said don't mind "eating soft rice"... Pls think carefully before replying... & keep in mind that wifey pay is miserable as take home less than $1200... with 2 kids... (K2 & N2).. both childcare fee abt $700... Enrichment course excluded in the fee amount.

 

sorry.. but dont flame me for this reply before thinking about stuff yourself... im just pissed reading such sxxt from singaporean women these days... u want to leave the guy.. and just need ppl to validate your reasons.. and it's pathetic that you are doing so by getting opinions from strangers.. wat is it that you want to hear? guy wanna change job.. cant feed.. so must leave him issit.. ok lor.. i tell u.. LEAVE HIM!! happy now?

 

not the first time you've posted your nonsense marriage woes here.. look.. either divorce the guy or move on.. whatever you do.. stop posting ur nonsense here.. cos this is a car forum.. i noe it's a forum and there's freedom of speech but u really wasted my time and other ppl's time in clicking to see wat it was and there it is.. you.. b!tching again... i really pity your husband.. if i were him.. i'd divorce you.. no wonder you're having so many marital problems.. it's cos you just suck big time! you should go kill yourself...

[Ahhuat]

well said!

[Thug]

He din mentioned that he is unhappy with his job but he told me many of his colleagues has quit instead...

 

I told him that if he find himself a low pay job, I've to work 2 jobs then.. He said he don't mind I take up 2 jobs... & feed him... What a LJ lang...!!! Are all mans like tat..??? esp... married man.. or Malaysian married man... I dono... I will thanks to his mum with the well upbringing & make he eats 'soft rice'....

Is ur hubby joking in the 1st place?

[Apollo]

i think she probably didn't wanna ask men becos of hostile response like this.

 

but u'r right, mebbe they just hv to cut down on expenses and make do. with current property prices, selling the flat and renting one is not really a bad idea. these r sacrifices.

 

but certainly i hope her hubby is not looking for an easy way out. we're all in some form of dilemna one way or another. one sud learn to adapt, to evolve ard a problem and solve them. the most worrying thing is to let the problem mount and it gets bigger.

[Thug]

Most importantly Jin Feng is dead

Wad is this got ot do wif....ermm...jin feng

[Icekitten]

I'm a , married with kids and I also think....just leave him la.

 

Agreed with those who said that this is not the first time you are posting your marital problems here.

 

If he is really that LJL as described by you, he is really not living up to the responsibilities of a husband and father. Then what for keep him as one?

[Freestylers09]

家家有本难念的经

 

i think its only u can make ur own decision and own feeling.Individuals react differently,overall you make ur own decision.if anything go by others' feeling and reactions,u might as well live for others.anyway goodluck

[Relagsingh]

can you tell us what your husband is doing now?

[Sfhuang]

Agree ... only Ms Tan will know the answer in her heart. She just needs support from fellow ladies to make that decision. To those who flamed her, maybe it's just that we are outsiders and cannot comprehend the kind of pain she goes through everyday.

[Icekitten]

But really a bit the funny place to get support from ladies...

 

This forum like not many char bors....

[Freestylers09]

maybe flowerpot forum more suitable to get more opinions from gals...maybe some also facing such problem

[Bluethorn]

ah... sounds a bit clearer.

 

I'm a wife with one kid as well, and I feel sometimes small actions and words by the husband can play important role in sustaining the marriage. So he shouldn't be joking around about "eating soft rice".

 

From the description it seems like the husband wants to shirk responsibility - but the wife is desperately trying to hold house and home together for the sake of the kids. Otherwise she would have taken action and divorced or separated from him a long while ago.

 

If TS is asking the "unmentioned" question of "Is it worth to support this sort of husband for the sake of the marriage and kids?" - my personal opinion is that it depends very much on your priorities. Think you wouldn't be wrong either way...

[Yeshe]

very sad to hear such things. I feel very fortunate not to have such problems. Even if i do, i believe my wife will stand by me, likewise i will do e same for her. Bottom line is where is e love u have promised each other when u signed on dotted line n said your vows.

[Icekitten]

 

When I hear such stories, I inevitably wonder "Why get married in the first place?"

 

But I know..."Love is blind" ....Sometimes some ppl are just fated to be blinded this way...by the time they realise, too late liao...seen a lot of such cases liao...

[Chocobelle]

ask urself if u r still in luv wif him & he's worth it

 

if the answers r nah, then move on

 

unless the s3x is damn bonkin' good

Edited January 7, 2008 by Chocobelle

[Freestylers09]

If really realise ,of coz is always late...this is something i always tell myself "Human nature will change,just depend on how extreme."

 

like i say..nothing is a definite promise..but a gambling promise instead[:p]

[Yeshe]

who will get married in the 1st place if not blinded by love???

[Yeshe]

unless the s3x is damn bonkin' good

 

this one is a fact, nothing to be ashamed of

all good relationship needs good s3x to substain