Awful encounter

[Slayer]

I like this kind of posts. all boils down to misunderstanding, misjudgement and miscommunication, the best is : EGO.

 

I'll just chip in my 2cents worth.

 

Just got an awful experience not long ago.

I think I have cut into the a on coming

car lane ( I did signal in advance ).

The driver horned and high beam me.

 

==>> cut into the lane at what speed? what speed u to estimate his was?

 

I thought that perhaps I know

this driver so I immediately moved over to left lane

and turn on Hazard Lamps.

The Car passed me and I realise that

is someone whom I dont know but he's just venting his anger.

 

===> By what gesture did he showed that he is angry? (u looked at him as he pass you on your right, that is just perhaps 1-2 second window)

 

So I thought is just part and parcel of driving

and I follow behind his car

( never horn, tailgate and high beam of course )

This time the driver pull over after both of us make a right turn

and I Moved to his side this time.

 

I saw him wanted to alight his car

in a fit of anger and his wife is holding

his Shirt so bad that it nearly torn.

 

Then I told him wait wait through my passenger window

but he still insist of getting down.

I saw that things are bad and I drove off.

This time the driver trail me to my carpark and

I intentionally make a U-turn to exit.

He stopped his car and get off angryliy.

He gave chase on his foot all the way to the car

Park Exit And I didnt stopped my car at all

in fear that he may punched or do something

funny.

 

I drove to the nearby NPC and guess what, the MATA

says they cant do anything and suggest that

I should have spoke to the other party to clarify.

 

But in my mind I was thinking this driver

was in such a mood that even if I didnt

explain, he would still moved his fist.

 

Why I didnt stopped is because he is

in a angry mind so I didnt want to

provoke aguement and even worst a fight.

 

So what do all think of this senerio?

Should I stopped my car and clarify things

when the drive gave chase?

 

==>> U should, if u have your baseball bat in your car.

Venue : Wellington Circle

Time : 2110 hrs

My Car : Nissan Sunny

The other's party car : White Toyota Vios

Lic Plate : SGL ****

 

 

P/S : I have use this message to reply

to Lightbreaker on another Thread.

To Mod : if this thread is deem to be

repetive, please erase.

[Galantspeedz]

I could understand why. He tot you are challenging him by stopping at the side first and when he refuse to stop you followed him. This is his misconception that you are issuing him a challenge.

 

Yes, i think you should have got down to talk to him and explain if the challenge was not your intention and if things get nasty then so be it. Some things shoud be handled thru fists afterall mata also wun help you.

 

PS. i believe though you signal and filter, you may have inadvertantly caused him to brake hard. Even after signalling you should check blind spot.

[Icekitten]

Nah...you can do this better than me.

 

I don't mean to be rude or start any flaming or whatever....

 

But TS is really good to have a simple common driving encounter blown out of proportion to this extent.

 

Thinking that someone horning and flashing right after he cut into someone else's lane means the other driver is a friend trying to catch his attention?

 

And then pulling over with hazard lights on immediately? To do what? Chit chat by the roadside?

 

At first I thought this guy could be a new driver, then maybe la....there are some people out there who think the world is really such a good and kind place....maybe the TS's actions and intentions as stated by him might be more plausible.

 

But then I realised...TS is not a new driver. In fact he joined this forum before I did.

 

Really...by some misguided reasoning, some ppl always think others are unreasonable or at fault without reflecting on their own actions.

 

This is my last post in this thread, since some ppl obviously don't welcome my posts.

 

See you around.

[DarkLord]

Yo bro, you did the right thing. But maybe you should take leave for a while to avoid the dude.

[Gearoil]

I'm replying to you but hopefully the TS can read and under-the-stand my view.

 

Whether a person is a new driver or not, to determine whether you can safely and correctly change lanes..... has got a LOT TO DO WITH THE WAY the driver goes about doing it!

 

1) Change lane only when you have sufficent distance away from the vehicle behind you to which you are changing lane to! The distance varies according to your speed and the other vehicle's speed.

 

2) Signal your intention early!

 

3) Change lane gradually and never abruptly!

 

4) If you can't safely change ro another lane by moving in front of the vehicle, allow the vehicle behind to overtake and then change lane when the vehicle has passed you. There are various method to do so. At higher speed you could safely brake a little, to allow vehicle to pass you first!

 

5) Plan or know your route so that you have enough time and distance to change to the required lane and not to do so as a last minute idea!

[Chrispie]

Simple.

 

Get down your car with a steel base ball bat.

[Hamburger]

driver like tis gives vios a bad image

[Wheeler]

I too can't stopped feeling wierd that you had actually thought that the person who had just horned and hi-beamed you is actually someone u know. . . and you even go to the extend of stopping at the side to confirm . . .

 

I hope that you're not the typical type who tries to play 'funny' in the first place but got their guts shrunk when they see the opposite party in a fit of anger. Suddenlly these people would come out with lots of 'innocent excuse or reasons and mellows for fear of receiving punches. With the availablity of internet, forums or even the police have even become a source for them to publish or report their 'innocence' just in case things gets out of control after that...

 

Now you make a confess to yourself, did you really stopped thinking he is someone that you know or you actually had a 'devil' in you that made you stopped to show you were pissed off by his horns and beams? [ Just answer YES or NO ahemm like lawyer in court]

 

 

Sorry if I sound mean , but like said a wave of apology solve everything...& I can safely say that your initial 'stopping at side to see if he is a friend of yours' gave the impression that you wanna challenge him. All would be fine if you did not do this, the most he curse and swear in his own car.

Edited August 9, 2008 by Wheeler

[Drive_carcar]

Oh dear.... last saturday in my MSCP, I horned and high beamed my brother in law when his car passed by... he passed by and I was inside my car trying to say hello... Hope he didn't think somebody was trying to pick up a fight

[Osiris]

long story, end of the day, u wave sorry should be all fine.

[Icejelly76]

I think the guy got anger management issues.

If you are alone in the car don't 'gei kiang' and step out.

Anything happen, you got no witness. It's your word against his.

 

But I think your car seow leow. He might go back to your carpark and scratch a mickey mouse logo on your bonnet, but I guess it's ok. If he really then he wait for you and throw punches or acid on your face.

[Porker]

Looks like the lyrics of a song also

[Godfinger]

Thanks for your reply and obvious good comment.

To be truth, I stopped by the roadside is purely

to let the car passed and intention is to see and

confirm if its really someone I know.

 

Perhaps this could have caused him to mistakely

believe that I made the first confrontation move.

 

Well since its been months after the incident,

I have forgotten this now.

[Godfinger]

Not to this extent mah.

[Godfinger]

Seriously, I stopped on first move

is to check and see if its someone

I know whom wanted to call reunion.

Nothing more then that.

 

Is purely seeking familar faces and

if this is consider as a confrontation

move by me, I will offer my apologies

just like any other people on the street

tapping on the wrong shouders

 

FYI, he could have asked me why I stopped

by the roadside first rather then approaching

me in a fit of anger.

Edited August 9, 2008 by Godfinger

[Roythc]

just wave and drive off

[Wheeler]

FYI, he could have asked me why I stopped

by the roadside first rather then approaching

me in a fit of anger.

 

He misunderstood your intention from the beginning for a challenge .... its not very possible for a angered man to offer u a explaination or ask for a explaination after greeting you hello ,how do you do.

 

Whereas upon seeing that he was not a friend of yours after stopping , you've still got chance to wave apologies to him.

Opportunity 1.) Wave sorry when you were behind him before turning right, I believe he is still watching you from his rear view mirror . OR

 

Opportunity 2.) After turning right, you may choose not to stop beside him. Carry on driving slowly but put your hands out of window and just signal apology, he will be able to see that for sure as your car move away from his sight.

 

On the road don't expect a angered driver to come running to you to explain to how you could have angered him with a smile. Instead its much more easier to offer signs of apology with a wave in the first place.. Stopping then drive off then make him drive in circles simply does nothing then outrages him more.

 

Happy[drivingcar]

Edited August 10, 2008 by Wheeler

[Slonez]

If it was me in your shoe, only 2 outcome.

 

Either he/me go hospital or go see our creator.