9 year old bully sued

[Genie47]

There comes an age they will keep quiet and you have to try to listen so hard to get them to tell you something. They are not always Mama's boys. That is where you are going to get into problems with them. Perpetuate the Mama's boy, and they will not tell you anything and by then it is too late.

 

Never ever use the word "always". Nobody is always a Mama's boy.

[Genie47]

That is why you don't give advice to a kid who is bullied as an adult.

 

Kids don't think the same way as adults. They are never adults to begin with and to make them see the adult way is stupidity in the first place.

 

A bully will never let you walk away. Once you are picked, you will be picked until you leave school.

[2bfree]

I didn't misread it.

 

You still have to stand up for your kid. If you don't stand up for your kid, then nobody is going to stand up for your kid. His teachers failed him. His classmates failed him. It is a damn tragedy if his parents failed him.

 

So he is knocked, broke a wrist and you tell him that it is OK? A bit too late to give him the advice because he stupidly shut his mouth when all this is happening thanks to people who might call him a "Mama's boy". His teachers failed him because they are just paid to teach. His classmates failed him because "better him than me".

 

No, I would tell him, this is what we do. Let daddy go to jail. You just watch. That's all you need to do. If you don't want to, you can stay underwater and listen to sounds of muffled screaming and a splash of a head dropping into the water.

 

Watch video.

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wQ6qh0z48Uk

 

My love is selfish. I only love my own children. If you don't want daddy to go to jail, we buy train tickets in advance first.

 

 

1. You still have to stand up for your kid. If you don't stand up for your kid, then nobody is going to stand up for your kid.

Teach ur kids hw to stand up for themselves not stand up for them. Teach ur children to earn their keep in this world not earn their keep for them.

2.His teachers failed him. His classmates failed him. It is a damn tragedy if his parents failed him.

When all fails, Yes, we shld stand up for our kids bt oni after our kids tried their best.

3.So he is knocked, broke a wrist and you tell him that it is OK?

No, its not OK. But I wldnt make file a law suit, I wld let him heal & train him to stand up to tis bully & WALLOP him. I wont WALLOP the bully or the father for my kid. He needs to do it himself.

4.A bit too late to give him the advice because he stupidly shut his mouth when all this is happening thanks to people who might call him a "Mama's boy".

Look, If a Kid knws hw to stand up for himself, there wldnt be a chance at all for the above to happen. Kids must be taught to stand up for themselves. The reason for the above u mentioned to happen is becos the PARENTS FAIL TO DO SO. Thats why their kids suffer in agony, suffer at the hands of those who dare to bully them. Hav u ever gaven a tot to why the kid is suffering in silence becos he is scare of being call a "Mama's Boy"? It's becos he behaves like one, becos his PARENTS are so damn protective of him making his behaviour different frm the other kids. Why I knw? Cos the real fight that I had in my K1 was becos I was indeed a "Mama's Boy". I wld cry & run to the teacher if some kid were to take away my toy, my plasticine, my pencil box etc. Nobody liked me thn, the whole class started to bully me. I cried to my MUM, MUM talks to the teacher, teacher punish the kid & sometimes kids. Bt it didnt STOP. So U knw, I was tinkin maybe I shldnt tell my MUM or the teacher. Like after awhile it will go away. Bt it didnt STOP. In fact, it gt worst. Cos I wasnt telling anyone, they start to bully me more. Thats wat happen to most kids u described, there isnt a need to watch YOUTUBE. All that changed when i fought with the bully who became my bud. I stood up for myself.....And thats the reason why my DAD was smiling when he met the other kid's father. Cos he long knw I was being bullied in school. He was the one who encouraged me to stand up for myself. And thats why if we love our kids, we teach them to fight for themselves & not fight for them. We will fight oni when all fails. Isnt dat the correct way?

[2bfree]

Btw, I dun understand the clip u post. Wat has it gotta to do with "Mama's Boy"? Seems like a nice show tho.

[Genie47]

Watch the entire film and you will know. That is the finale. Well it is a false finale.

 

The film is Let The Right One In or in Swedish L

[Kusje]

That's silly.

 

There are many ways for a kid to stand up for himself. Sometimes it is fighting back physically, sometimes it is by telling the teacher, sometimes it is by getting his parents to stand up for him.

 

Not everyone is physically capable of fighting back (when the bully is much bigger) and there is a limit to retaliation. In this case, the bully knocked the kid out with a chair so what should the retaliation be? Stab him in the face with a knife? The teacher doesn't care so parents will have to step in. The child cannot confront the bully's father and cannot sue the bully. The parents can.

 

The lioness might allow the cub to play and hunt a baby deer but when the adult cheetah comes by, continuing to sit back and watch is pure foolishness.

 

I put it to you: You son was assaulted with a chair and his wrist was broken by some bullies. Would you encourage him to fight back?

[Axela72]

The problem is, if the kid is able to fight better than the bully by all means. Not everyone can be a bully. Typically, a bully is bigger in size or he/she has a gang support behind. If you encourage your kid to fight back, there maybe more injury receive from him further.

 

However, if the kid is a better fighter than the bully, how can he be the one that is injuired but not the bully in the 1st place?

[Genie47]

You are thinking like an adult here. Kids get scared. Get a bully or a gang of bullies, even more scared. Still, you fight. Get a weapon if you have to.

 

Why? It draws attention to your problem. The reason why they are bullied is nobody seems to care.

 

The teachers and the parents. They are not evil. They just choose to look the other way. That is the sad part of it all.

 

So now he is injured which is all the more tragic. At least now there is attention into his problem and the bully is getting into a situation where his own dad might postpone his trip to Disneyland.

[Kusje]

Still, you fight. Get a weapon if you have to.

 

Why? It draws attention to your problem. The reason why they are bullied is nobody seems to care.

 

The teachers and the parents. They are not evil. They just choose to look the other way. That is the sad part of it all.

 

Disagree with the use of weapons. There is a limit to which one should be willing to escalate the situation. Remember, if you use too much force to protect youself, then no one is going to believe you were the victim when the situation blows up beyond your control.

[Genie47]

You think there are many teachers who care? You think it is silly to fight back? That is because you are thinking like an adult in the situation. A kid is not going to tell his parents or teachers he is being bullied. Of all my school life, I have never come across a boy or myself even to tell an adult we've been bullied.

 

Call it social stigma or call it fear. Fear of what I don't know. I've somewhat forgotten but it is fear alright.

 

Then again, I have say it again. Kids who bully are usually the product of parents who lack any sort of purpose or direction in their lives. Kids who are bullied are products of neglect. They are not empowered in any sort of way because nobody empowered them.

 

A kid fights back not because he is strong. A kid fights back because he is empowered. He doesn't care if he get laid waste by a bigger bully. He just knows he has to hit back hard.

 

 

[Genie47]

We are not talking about being innocent here. Bullying is a big problem and what better way to bring the attention to it since everyone is looking away. If the problem has become so big, I doubt trying to be innocent about it is going to help.

 

What? Like in Japan? Kenna bullied until commit suicide?

 

It is damned if you do and damned if you don't. So damn it! Use as much force as you want.

[Nutsack]

Does your real life English name start with a "T"?

 

T? Why leh?

[Kusje]

You think there are many teachers who care? You think it is silly to fight back? That is because you are thinking like an adult in the situation. A kid is not going to tell his parents or teachers he is being bullied. Of all my school life, I have never come across a boy or myself even to tell an adult we've been bullied.

 

Make them care. Pester the form teacher. The discipline master. The principal. Someone will take action eventually. If you claim a 9 year old kid won't know how to/be able to do that then my counter claim is that he won't be brave enough to fight against overwhelming odds. If you can encourage them to fight back, then you can also encourage them to bring problems up to the proper authorities.

 

And oh, you should have been in my class. I was the ultimate tattletale. I'd complain to the teacher whenever someone tried to bully me. I'd complain when I saw others being bullied even though it was none of my concern. Obviously they had to stop bullying me but they started to mock me for being a coward. I just ignored them. Now, I was 14 at that point in time and I am certain that I would not have been able to do as I did at the tender age of 9. I'd probably have went to my mommy; if your kid is too afraid to tell you he's being bullied then you are doing something wrong as a parent.

[Kusje]

We are not talking about being innocent here. Bullying is a big problem and what better way to bring the attention to it since everyone is looking away. If the problem has become so big, I doubt trying to be innocent about it is going to help.

 

What? Like in Japan? Kenna bullied until commit suicide?

 

It is damned if you do and damned if you don't. So damn it! Use as much force as you want.

 

I'm not saying children should remain silent. They are children! They should tell an adult - their parents - who will be better equiped to handle the problem. If their own parents don't care, then yes, maybe they should commit suicide.

[Fortekia]

To put it simply I believe the aim of the victim parent is to punish the father who is cocky and not remorseful after what his son has done , its not a matter of cry baby thing , the best place to hit where bullys father is where its hurt that is his pocket and put him thru the stress of legal proceeding

 

I have dealt with pple without any sense of conscience and such pple exist and thought everyone owe him a living , felt the father belong to this group

[Kusje]

Yes. Hopefully they will not settle it out of court and I am free on the day of the trial. Can go down and watch show.

[Genie47]

In this system of ours, I don't think teachers will care. Everyone is looking after their own job.

 

Parents always think nothing is wrong. Call it Singaporean apathy and complacency.

[Genie47]

Children will remain silent when they are bullied. They don't speak to you about it and never will. If they are unfairly treated or their toys are not shared to them, they will tell but when it comes to violence done upon them, they will be silent.

 

That is why parenting is tough. You got to tune in and see. Only Hollywood kids talk to their parents.