WTF 4th Gear July 19, 2010 Share July 19, 2010 Call up your unit to voluntee for early or double ICT! I think better finish all your expensive food like abalone. Stockup win instand noodles and luncheon meat! Best is everyday buy oily fried food for their breakfast and dinner! Feed them until they fat fat. Buy packets of oily peanuts and cans of cheap beer like jolly sandy! Buy butter bread and cakes! Cookies and sugared drinks. That's the best revenge you can give without actually Killing them! Probably TS's wife will be very fat as well by then....... ↡ Advertisement Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Summer69 Clutched July 19, 2010 Share July 19, 2010 on the bright side, lucky no marry to China mei mei, i think 10 time worst. even gongli type also buatahan. imagine got to buy air tickets every now and then. and every month money will be T/T away to motherland. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
WTF 4th Gear July 19, 2010 Share July 19, 2010 on the bright side, lucky no marry to China mei mei, i think 10 time worst. even gongli type also buatahan. imagine got to buy air tickets every now and then. and every month money will be T/T away to motherland. Not all are bad lah....my colleague's China wife is working and doesn't need my colleague to T/T $$$ back to China. While every countries have bad apples, there's also some who are good. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fresh Clutched July 19, 2010 Share July 19, 2010 just want to pour out my anger and let goo all the streamzzz cos i am all soo fustrated. ... How long can this last...... I can only feel sorry for you, since I'm not wearing your shoes, and have not experienced the same things, I am not qualified to 'give you advice', but i feel you'll have to work it out yourself, instead of asking here in a forum. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vroomtattat 2nd Gear July 19, 2010 Share July 19, 2010 Bro, pity you lah but if you love your wife you have to put up with their idiotic behaviours. They are mostly like that (m'sian men) maybe due to the fact they do not go thru NS like we do. Had a couple of M'sian male colleagues throughout the years and only one phrase to describe them - ku niangs. One took urgent leaves whenever his bunny fall sick and he'll whine "I have to take care of my baby!" Grmmmmmph? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kkttt 1st Gear July 19, 2010 Share July 19, 2010 I dont know about your finances, but I believe every family should always aim to save up, especially if you have/are going to have kids, they cost a bomb Have you tried talking to your wife about this? Maybe she'll understand that she has to sacrifice feeding her siblings a bit to feed her own kids Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joemit7850 1st Gear July 19, 2010 Author Share July 19, 2010 With a firm tone, drum into your wife that smoking in the house is very harmful to the occupants in it, especially your kid(s). The smoke can also get to the people staying above & beside your house, depending on the wind direction. For the sake of your child and everyone else, get your wife to relate the message to her immediate family members in crystal-clear manner, once and for all. bro... think you ans to the wrong person lah.. it another bro family who smoke.... haha Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joemit7850 1st Gear July 19, 2010 Author Share July 19, 2010 I can only feel sorry for you, since I'm not wearing your shoes, and have not experienced the same things, I am not qualified to 'give you advice', but i feel you'll have to work it out yourself, instead of asking here in a forum. no lah.. i not asking for advise actually i just want to let go my streammzzzzz... cos have been inside me for 1 years... i feel better at least someone heard me out.. i can't talk much to my family cos i dun want them to worry too much.. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
WTF 4th Gear July 19, 2010 Share July 19, 2010 no lah.. i not asking for advise actually i just want to let go my streammzzzzz... cos have been inside me for 1 years... i feel better at least someone heard me out.. i can't talk much to my family cos i dun want them to worry too much.. Maybe you can try this. Get your parents/family members to come live with you so that no more room available to house your BILs. Only problem is whether your new tenants would be worst than the current ones.... One of my friend sold his flat to stay with his parents to avoid such problems....... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tigerwoods Turbocharged July 19, 2010 Share July 19, 2010 when you marry her.. you marry the family.... has been and always will be... though some other peoples opinions 'may differ. i guess your wife from MY... mine is too... to a certain extent.. mine is abit similar too yours, as my wife would hope i can take care of her bros and sis... the difference is lucky they are very independent.... the reason we bought a flat initially was so her bros and sis can save on rental... which i am fine with it... but lucky they dun want to stay... i think you should speak to your wife.. lay down some ground rules with her... and enforce them if need be. EG: her bro hp.. just tell her if her bro dun pay.. she has to pay... and let her pay.. neither should you feel angry about it..., who eat thing must throw away.. if dun throw next time dun eat... and dun let them stay for free... let them pay... not rental but pay enough to cover PUB...so they will not take it for granted Sorry you marry her only and not the family. The man and woman when married leaves their parents and become one. Our Parents, Brothers, Sisters... ALL in the Outer Circle. Joemit, you should tell your wife that she has to make a Stand as to How Much of her income can be used to support her family - Give it to her Parents and let them Redistribute to her Bros, and Sis. About them staying in your house.... Note - your house is NOT a Hotel. If they chose to work in SG, they have to find a rental house. ONLY her Parents can stay in your house. Handphone bills - why you so generous ? cut all of it and make them pay by themselves. Sometimes, you have to be the HEAD of your Household. Don't let these Pariahs sh1t all over your home. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joemit7850 1st Gear July 19, 2010 Author Share July 19, 2010 (edited) Maybe you can try this. Get your parents/family members to come live with you so that no more room available to house your BILs. Only problem is whether your new tenants would be worst than the current ones.... One of my friend sold his flat to stay with his parents to avoid such problems....... haha.. good for your friend.. but i dun think i will do that.. cos my parent has their own place to stay already dun think they want to stay with me.and doing that will make my wife feel even bad when my parent has place to stay are staying with me.. and her family??? Edited July 19, 2010 by Joemit7850 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
WTF 4th Gear July 19, 2010 Share July 19, 2010 haha.. good for your friend.. but i dun think i will do that.. cos my parent has their own place to stay already dun think they want to stay with me.and doing that will make my wife feel even back when my parent has place to stay are staying with me.. and her family??? Mine is an extreme suggestions lah... But my friend did "solve" his problem. His PILs who once stayed >1 yr in his house now can only stayed for about 2 weeks to 1 month. Plus his mother is able to help take care of his 2 kids. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aimnfire 4th Gear July 19, 2010 Share July 19, 2010 before i proceed i would like to apologise first if my post may offend some forumers here talk is cheap i know some forumers suggest ts this and that, especially getting back at the family members i would not say wrong or right it is just that we never been in ts shoes for ts situation is actually opposite of mine its because of my late dad (well he remarried) that i endure it although wifey is truely unhappy with many things on my side my siblings and step siblings are 10 including me and i'm the eldest what ts gone through is more or less the same as wifey gone through i mean i myself are short of cash sometimes salary is in negative value after paying utilities,cc,etc etc so when they urgently need money sometimes i boh pian got to dig somewhere in the end my dad pass away and i try to distance myself if last time i use to visit my dad maybe twice a month now i just cant be bother maybe once a year during festive season another thing is base on my experience other asians look at singaporeans as cash cow (my step siblings are malaysians and indonesians) thinking we are very rich, drive car, got big house etc etc example only end of last year 1 of them contact me saying need $1k cause short of money for wife's liver operation honestly speaking i was really short of money during that time but i forgo some bills all of you may said i'm stupid and idiots and all sort of names like i said talk is cheap if we are in somebody shoes then we realise how bad is it to ts yup its true that once you marry, you marry into your partner family whatever your wife burden you got to pick it up too even though i know its very heavy for you all i can say is, good luck in finding a way out but please dont pressure your wife as i believe she have enough pressure as it is regards Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fcw75 Hypersonic July 19, 2010 Share July 19, 2010 (edited) I have to agree with you. Talk is cheap. To TS, your wife cannot decide where she wants to be born into so please do not give her too much pressure. Edited July 19, 2010 by Fcw75 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tigershark1976 Turbocharged July 19, 2010 Share July 19, 2010 i must agree with bro galantspeedz... maybe i was lucky, my mum always tell me the same thing... marry a girl means marry her family and their problem.. thats y i am very care on such matter... 1st of all, i must say that there is no such culture in Malaysia where the eldest have to take care of the younger slibling... i have seen a lot of cases where the eldest dont really give a damn at all... Okie, since you are in the s--t now... its better to have a family meeting. Dont put your wife in the difficult position. Explain to them what is happening and show them all the bills and the telco contracts... many old folks dont undestand cos there is no such things as hp/ internet contract during their era, and utility bills is dirt cheap in malaysia, over hear, every headcount will easily cost additional $30 to $40 to the utility bill monthly . Let them know that how heavy is your load, the amount of money you had paid for their children.., the penalties you had to be responsible, the monthly installment you have to fork out... if the PIL still refuse to undestand, then too bad.... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mockngbrd Supersonic July 19, 2010 Share July 19, 2010 i'd draw the limit at taking care of in-law parents... siblings can go fk spider... take it or leave it... u keep feeding them, they'll keep leaching off you. like forever Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Metalbone Clutched July 19, 2010 Share July 19, 2010 When u do anything (cutting off hp bills etc), make sure ur wife agrees with u else u will be fighting a losing battle. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wutaowei Neutral Newbie July 19, 2010 Share July 19, 2010 I sympathize with your predicament. Am sure your kind deeds towards your siblings will be paid back to you, blessing you when you're in need of it in future. ↡ Advertisement Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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