Basic Manners/Courtesy

[Chrispie]

i can understand when one finds it difficult to compliment others. But a thank is so easy to say and make another's day. I always make it a pt to wave thanks (for other cars if its obvious to me they gave way, or cars that let me cross the street by stopping), say thanks to auntie clearing my table, and anyone who holds the lift.. isnt it just basic?

 

Maybe i shld jz lower my expectations....

 

i cant possibly slam the lift door as there are children. And i can imagine if that happens, the parents sure wanna pick a fight, and if my reason is i did that because they didnt thank me, kaoz.. how petty i will look!

[Darthrevan]

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[Ysc3]

Now still got ppl say thank you to the person who holding lift? Its been a long time since i last heard a thank you from ppl when i hold lift for them, many treat me like an invisible man.

 

just a couple of weeks ago, i entered my flat's lift and saw a family approaching ... so i held the lift for them ... but i dunno why the door kept closing when they tried to enter ... then i realized that i was pressing the wrong button !! I was so "pai-seh" .... i think maybe they thot i might have been trying to close the door on them instead !!

[Ysc3]

i can understand when one finds it difficult to compliment others. But a thank is so easy to say and make another's day. I always make it a pt to wave thanks (for other cars if its obvious to me they gave way, or cars that let me cross the street by stopping), say thanks to auntie clearing my table, and anyone who holds the lift.. isnt it just basic?

 

yup .... the very basics is in acknowledging the presence of another person.

 

like everyday i leave my workplace, i will just wave at the security guards - even though i never speak to them and the when leaving the estate, i will wave to the different estate guard again ... even though i dun even know them at all.

 

but once it did surprise me when i gave way to an estima ... and the driver made it a point to wind down his window and wave me a "thank you". I have seen people "wave" from inside the car ... but only once wind down the window - more sincere.

 

[Chrispie]

yup .... the very basics is in acknowledging the presence of another person.

 

like everyday i leave my workplace, i will just wave at the security guards - even though i never speak to them and the when leaving the estate, i will wave to the different estate guard again ... even though i dun even know them at all.

 

but once it did surprise me when i gave way to an estima ... and the driver made it a point to wind down his window and wave me a "thank you". I have seen people "wave" from inside the car ... but only once wind down the window - more sincere.

 

 

On singapore roads, one usually waves down the window to give you the middle finger.

 

One night, quite late, i was driving and i saw this car cutting in and out of traffic aggressively from my rear view mirror.. then when i reached merging lane (im ahead), this stupid Wish, just accel on the road shoulder and literally SLOTTED between my car and the car infront. I gave a long horn, and he wound down to gimme the WTF and middle finger. Also on hazard light, and asked me to pull over and 'settle'.

 

Siao if i am do do that.. so i accel.. but traffic quite heavy.. he actually chased me down.. positioned himself at 45deg ahead of me... as if ready to cut my lane if i am to move on.. I had match his speed and keep my distance incase the mad dog does anything crazy... so .. after a while , i dropped gear and full throttle to shake him off ( i had to exit the E'way anyway)... What is wrong with these ppl?

Edited September 25, 2011 by Chrispie

[Kiadaw]

i can understand when one finds it difficult to compliment others. But a thank is so easy to say and make another's day. I always make it a pt to wave thanks (for other cars if its obvious to me they gave way, or cars that let me cross the street by stopping), say thanks to auntie clearing my table, and anyone who holds the lift.. isnt it just basic?

 

Maybe i shld jz lower my expectations....

 

i cant possibly slam the lift door as there are children. And i can imagine if that happens, the parents sure wanna pick a fight, and if my reason is i did that because they didnt thank me, kaoz.. how petty i will look!

You don't know meh, ask Singaporeans to open their mouth is very difficult one meh.

 

To be honest, I think our upbringing & education have to do a part as well. There is very little effort to impart courtesy.

 

In many other 1st world countries, imparting courtesy like saying thank you, are part of the lessons, teach either by teachers, or parents to their children. I heard in Britain, road mannerism, is taught together with standard driving skills.

[Chrispie]

the typical kiasu mentality has made it such that we are always very territorial over personal space and rights...

 

just not too gracious. Not saying that i am, but as far as i am aware, i do my best. I have ugly sides that i need to change also. But no one points out to me... like how i didnt point out to the angmor yesterday.

Edited September 25, 2011 by Chrispie

[RadX]

I also encounter almost every other day on my way to work in the morning , the lift will stop at certain level and you don't see anybody outside. It is either the person is hiding as their partner is not out from their doorstep yet or either that person ask you to proceed as their partner or children or maid are not out yet. Why can't they wait for all to be out first before pressing the lift and not waste everybody's time.

yup..i just press close and if they rush....toooo bad

 

 

 

[Donut]

my neighbour is a german, fugging basterd man, dummbatz!

 

Germans are still racist at heart.....

[Chrispie]

I always say thank you if the cleaning has been done correctly.

 

Nowadays though it's just a quick flick with a dirty unhygienic cloth.

In that case no I don't say thank you.

 

 

dont u just hate it when at hawker ctr etc,

 

1. ppl takes the empty seats (wanna share table) without asking u if the seats are occupied?

 

2. some of the empty cans collector, just happily take the cans and shake it without your consent?

 

 

Another case is at traffic light, you wanna turn left and you are waiting for all the pedestrains to cross before u can make your turn.. and the signal for them has already turned into the RED MAN, and they are happily strolling over ( old ppl are exceptions, i can accept), and by time the last person crossed, your light already turned red and you are effectively running a red light. The cars opp making right turns are also coming in.. damn dulan. I at times just bochup and horn liao, but these idiots still boh chup.

Edited September 25, 2011 by Chrispie

[Jchuacl]

Just look at the forum here, how many forummers will say thank you for help rendered or say sorry if they said something wrong?

 

 

what are some of the unpleasant encounters u guy had where some people just have no simple manners? share here.

 

Today, i was at a hotel and went to my car at a basement to get something. A volvo Xc90 parked and out came a caucasian family, including 2 small girls, and a baby on pram.

 

I got what i needed and walked to the lift and they were approaching the lift too, quite slowly and about 15m away. I held the lift for them.. and they took their time to get in, as the father needed to coax one of the girls to enter,and the mother was having difficulty parking the pram into the lift. so i wait.. i wait.. and the father was the last to enter. Not a single thank.

 

Nvm.

 

Reached their level first.. same, i hold the lift for them, and they took their own sweet time to exit.. i wait.. i wait.. and... Not a single thank.

 

So PRC arent the only one without basic courtesy. Some of these so called Atas expats arent any better either.

 

[Throttle2]

On singapore roads, one usually waves down the window to give you the middle finger.

 

One night, quite late, i was driving and i saw this car cutting in and out of traffic aggressively from my rear view mirror.. then when i reached merging lane (im ahead), this stupid Wish, just accel on the road shoulder and literally SLOTTED between my car and the car infront. I gave a long horn, and he wound down to gimme the WTF and middle finger. Also on hazard light, and asked me to pull over and 'settle'.

 

Siao if i am do do that.. so i accel.. but traffic quite heavy.. he actually chased me down.. positioned himself at 45deg ahead of me... as if ready to cut my lane if i am to move on.. I had match his speed and keep my distance incase the mad dog does anything crazy... so .. after a while , i dropped gear and full throttle to shake him off ( i had to exit the E'way anyway)... What is wrong with these ppl?

 

they need to meet the german head of credit restructuring at RBS who drives a bentley.

hahahaah

[Badder]

Ah moh are more stingy than they are rude.

 

They did not want to tip you so ignore you lor.

 

lol [laugh]

 

 

 

 

[Maxus-MIFA9]

what are some of the unpleasant encounters u guy had where some people just have no simple manners? share here.

 

Today, i was at a hotel and went to my car at a basement to get something. A volvo Xc90 parked and out came a caucasian family, including 2 small girls, and a baby on pram.

 

I got what i needed and walked to the lift and they were approaching the lift too, quite slowly and about 15m away. I held the lift for them.. and they took their time to get in, as the father needed to coax one of the girls to enter,and the mother was having difficulty parking the pram into the lift. so i wait.. i wait.. and the father was the last to enter. Not a single thank.

 

Nvm.

 

Reached their level first.. same, i hold the lift for them, and they took their own sweet time to exit.. i wait.. i wait.. and... Not a single thank.

 

So PRC arent the only one without basic courtesy. Some of these so called Atas expats arent any better either.

you really good hor.....

 

15m away and you wait for them. if you took the lift up and press the lift down again for them, I think they might just reach the lift door below ....

[Ysc3]

You don't know meh, ask Singaporeans to open their mouth is very difficult one meh.

 

not true ... when it comes to complaining and demanding - locals are just as "good" as the americans !!

[Mustank]

do we say thank you to the cleaning uncle or auntie who clears the table at the hawker centre?

 

think we can only control ourselves.. instead of asking why pple are like that.. the best thing to do is to start doing what we expect of others...

if we start to say thank you... soon.. another person will catch on....

 

this is so true!

[Mustank]

On singapore roads, one usually waves down the window to give you the middle finger.

 

One night, quite late, i was driving and i saw this car cutting in and out of traffic aggressively from my rear view mirror.. then when i reached merging lane (im ahead), this stupid Wish, just accel on the road shoulder and literally SLOTTED between my car and the car infront. I gave a long horn, and he wound down to gimme the WTF and middle finger. Also on hazard light, and asked me to pull over and 'settle'.

 

Siao if i am do do that.. so i accel.. but traffic quite heavy.. he actually chased me down.. positioned himself at 45deg ahead of me... as if ready to cut my lane if i am to move on.. I had match his speed and keep my distance incase the mad dog does anything crazy... so .. after a while , i dropped gear and full throttle to shake him off ( i had to exit the E'way anyway)... What is wrong with these ppl?

 

i love challenges by jokers in merging lane and never queue up chaps. I like the part i wave:

 

来 la

 

and see the other guy

[Cindytan]

talking about this i personally encounter a lot when i was working the hotel, a female Australia guest just threw the lift card right at my face and i stood down there clueless didn't know what is going on because i came back from lunch, until my colleague told me that the card had been reprogrammed 2 times by one of my colleague that already went for lunch after me.