Do you compliment?

[Kia0042]

Not only praise but also reward (to FT)

Thank you VERY much (to Local)

[Good-Carbuyer]

Do you compliment or praise people in a social or work environment if they did something commendable?

 

Do you find that you praise more or criticize more? Why so?

 

Is it because in Asian culture, people are expected to do everything right so praise is unnecessary?

 

Is it because in Asian culture, people are supposed to show restrain and humility so praising / being praised is "embarassing"?

 

Is it because people are generally inept and not praise worthy?

 

Is it because of some personal insecurity where praising is seen as admitting another person is better than oneself?

 

Please discuss

I try to minimise both. Even got some people here used to assumed/imagined any comment to be negative

Constructive critism only if I believe the recipient can interpret correctly. Praises, yes. No idea which one more common

Not that many do things right, or identify correctly, so how to praise?

Confessed tree truck instead of night-blindness, how to praise?

Looking for damaged car number plate instead of making police report, certainly not praise-worthy

It takes a fool to call another. So never condem ourselves.

[Jamesc]

Most managers talk to much.

 

They complain, criticise and demotivate.

 

Sometimes they should just say thank you

 

or well done.

 

But this they never do.

 

Edited April 3, 2012 by Jamesc

[Porker]

So true. James always tell the truth in the most light hearted manner

[Calvin79]

Is it weird to work in a work place where the whole department doesnt even have a single dinner gathering?

i have been working here one year now... and it just feels so weird considering my ex company we do it at least once a month...

in smaller groups even more...

 

just feels so funny....

[RadX]

Is it weird to work in a work place where the whole department doesnt even have a single dinner gathering?

i have been working here one year now... and it just feels so weird considering my ex company we do it at least once a month...

in smaller groups even more...

 

just feels so funny....

 

those small things do make the difference...really

[Espresso]

Do you compliment or praise people in a social or work environment if they did something commendable?

 

Do you find that you praise more or criticize more? Why so?

 

Is it because in Asian culture, people are expected to do everything right so praise is unnecessary?

 

Is it because in Asian culture, people are supposed to show restrain and humility so praising / being praised is "embarassing"?

 

Is it because people are generally inept and not praise worthy?

 

Is it because of some personal insecurity where praising is seen as admitting another person is better than oneself?

 

Please discuss

 

I praise alot ....praise is free, praise is morale boaster (so I praise when good job is done or when no mistake is done), and as a manager....praising my reports infront of my boss actually makes me look good as well a.k.a. they had good guidance from me.

Edited April 3, 2012 by Espresso

[Darthrevan]

asians tend to criticize..praise and compliments are something that is so rare that winning lottery seems easier

[Jamesc]

So true. James always tell the truth in the most light hearted manner

Thank you bro, you are the best.

 

 

[Jman888]

Thank you bro, you are the best.

 

 

 

dun let him praise you too much, he is looking for new partner

 

on the topic, Asian hardly praise but if they do, it is a damn well recognition. Ang moh praise a lot but half the time they dun mean it

[Calvin79]

those small things do make the difference...really

 

i tried analyzing the problem...

and the biggest problem i realised is that in a department of 25 pax...

we have 10 different nationalities...

 

guess thats one of the problem...

but even so, those fellow Singaporeans break up into 3-4 groups...

so i guess its good in a way...

 

i will just leave once a better offer comes without much feelings.

[Darthrevan]

on the topic, Asian hardly praise but if they do, it is a damn well recognition. Ang moh praise a lot but half the time they dun mean it

 

so would u rather be praised or criticize? lets leave nationality/race out of the question

[Jman888]

so would u rather be praised or criticize? lets leave nationality/race out of the question

 

 

of course everyone love to hear praises, I mean Asian hardly praise but they are also quite reserved in criticize, and they are also quite forgiving. some ang moh company can priase you in one minute, and gave you a pink slip the next.

 

i work for ang moh for about 10 years, they are really nice poeple but you can never be one of them.

[KARTer]

i say young chap, that is an excellent post that stimulates our senses to the core. Never have I seen such an outstanding display of words used and the enhance the character of oneself......GOOD JOB

May i priase you?

[Jj5599]

I never compliment a woman.

[Sosaria]

The performance bonus, in a way, tells me about the praises that should go my way. Money talks louder than mere words...

 

[Kiadaw]

of course everyone love to hear praises, I mean Asian hardly praise but they are also quite reserved in criticize, and they are also quite forgiving. some ang moh company can priase you in one minute, and gave you a pink slip the next.

 

i work for ang moh for about 10 years, they are really nice poeple but you can never be one of them.

 

I wouldn't say its an Asian thing, as Japanese can be very friendly & praise people as well.

 

I would say, in Sinagpore, people are very reserve in praise. Its about upbringing & education.

 

I am learning German at the moment, & I cannot help but notice how basic coutesy & compliment are taught together. You have to say 'please' when you ask. 'Thank you' when someone help or serve you. etc. I heard in Britain, coutesy & road mannars are taught in driving school & it shows on the road.

 

I do not remember in my years of study in Singapore with much emphasis on good mannerism & coutesy, except social studies, or the Hao Kong Ming in my time.

But no one give a damn about social studies & hao kong Ming as its not examinal in Singapore (my time a least).

 

I think the same upbringing & educational system that we cannot accept criticism. Singaporeans cannot take criticism. to admit a mistake or say "I am wrong" is very hard.

 

For many 'angmoh' countries, the upbringing is if someone did a good job, or a bad one, it must be known. To them to say someone did a good job, when it true is only natural, & to say you are wrong, or when they think you are wrong, is also ok, just like saying you are wrong is also ok.

 

After that they moved on. People do not get backside hurt & hold a gruch base on the comments. This is their culture, & many think it is normal, but it isn't 'normal' in Singapore. To tell someone you think they did a bad job, or are wrong is considered "attacking their pride" in Singapore. We get defensive, and all.

 

I have a Scottish friend, & she used to work in SEA (mymnama spelling?), & what she told me was similar to culture in Singapore. People cannot be told they are wrong, & when they are not sure of something or know something, they keep quiet. But she said, once you know the culture, its ok.

 

The issue with SIngapore, is we have many foriegners, & they do not know our culture & characters, & base on reply here, we know not much (or have misconception) of many others culture as well.

 

In my company, we have cultural talks, where show us some characteristic & acceptable/unacceptable norm in other cultures, taught by the native. So far I attended culture talk on Indians, Japanese, Germans etc.

 

Its an eye opener, I would say.

 

I think maybe its a good idea for new Foriegners to have similar talks & training to know Singaporeans & Singapore better to prevent misunderstanding...i.e like never ever bring up NS, or never criticise SIngaporean in the face. etc

[RadX]

May i priase you?

 

u shaddap and behave