Malay wedding

[Voodooman]

On 11/8/2025 at 1:31 PM, Lala81 said:

yes i still remember the 1-2 who gave way below market rate for my wedding.

Etched in memory.

 

 

How much?  

A friend (couple) gave me a decorative piece that probably cost $30-40 and I still remember to this day too.  😂

Edited November 8, 2025 by Voodooman

[Mkl22]

My take has always been, if you want a dinner then be prepared to “lose money” but I agree with the Malay community in that the one invites so that others can share in your joy. Otherwise restrict the number to very close. 
heck, when my kids get married. For me, just sign can liao. Everything else is optional. It’s their life, decision and debts. I don’t need to please relatives and give or save face. 🤣

Edited November 8, 2025 by Mkl22

[mersaylee]

On 11/8/2025 at 11:20 AM, Jamesc said:

Give $100 more its a once in a lifetime opportunity. 

They have to buy flat and not cheap these days.

And not everyone like me but maybe baby coming and hospital fees not cheap.

And most important they suddenly will be like see you so happy. 

People don't forget the guy that gave the big ang pow.

If you give below market rate they will also never forget you.

 

Go super memorable...go makan but no give...🙏😁

[ER-3682]

On 11/8/2025 at 1:23 PM, Gnahp said:

yeah, you just reminded me

got to go shopee to buy some green packets 😁

No need to buy,you go there,ask any Malay,they will give you 1.

[ER-3682]

On 11/8/2025 at 2:51 PM, mersaylee said:

Go super memorable...go makan but no give...🙏😁

Don't "Xia Suay" Chinese.

[Dafansu]

On 11/8/2025 at 2:28 PM, Mkl22 said:

My take has always been, if you want a dinner then be prepared to “lose money” but I agree with the Malay community in that the one invites so that others can share in your joy. Otherwise restrict the number to very close. 
heck, when my kids get married. For me, just sign can liao. Everything else is optional. It’s their life, decision and debts. I don’t need to please relatives and give or save face. 🤣

I just had 2 tables in Wan Hao Restaurant Marriott Hotel, my own family and my wife family for about 20 pax with solemniser, no money to lose. Still can park my  old Toyota vios outside the hotel main lobby. 😁

Edited November 8, 2025 by Dafansu

[ER-3682]

On 11/8/2025 at 1:40 PM, Lala81 said:

they accept red also lah. haha

 

If use Red one,better put at least $200 for 2 Persons,they knew is from a Chinese Couple & can write his real Name on it,if @Gnahpgive as little as $50,use the Green one,name put his MyCarForum's Name.."From Mr & Mrs Gnahp".

[Gnahp]

On 11/8/2025 at 3:51 PM, ER-3682 said:

If use Red one,better put at least $200 for 2 Persons,they knew is from a Chinese Couple & can write his real Name on it,if @Gnahpgive as little as $50,use the Green one,name put his MyCarForum's Name.."From Mr & Mrs Gnahp".

should raise the bar, spoil the market and sabo other Cina who bao $50 😁

[Jamesc]

On 11/8/2025 at 2:51 PM, mersaylee said:

Go super memorable...go makan but no give...🙏😁

On death bed also will remember. 

Mersaylee was the one that came and ate free.

[Jamesc]

If anybody children getting married can hire my MIL. 

She will open ang pow look inside and if below market rate or give nothing like @mersaylee will give the guest one kind of look one and everyone see until the guest paiseh and give more.

She not shy one and we can do any race wedding.

When comes to money she not racist one.

The colour of everyone money the same one.

[Jamesc]

If get invited to a wedding be should we gracious  

Don't want any young couple start life in debt.

Edited November 8, 2025 by Jamesc

[Ahwhye]

On 11/8/2025 at 2:20 PM, Voodooman said:

How much?  

A friend (couple) gave me a decorative piece that probably cost $30-40 and I still remember to this day too.  😂

I have a grand auntie (this was how we called her) gave a token amount, just like the ang bao one gave to the cleaner of their area during CNY long long time ago.

No complaint lah, she came we happy liao.  

 

[Gnahp]

On 11/8/2025 at 5:51 PM, Jamesc said:

If anybody children getting married can hire my MIL. 

She will open ang pow look inside and if below market rate or give nothing like @mersaylee will give the guest one kind of look one and everyone see until the guest paiseh and give more.

She not shy one and we can do any race wedding.

When comes to money she not racist one.

The colour of everyone money the same one.

like this?

 

[Voodooman]

On 11/8/2025 at 5:56 PM, Ahwhye said:

I have a grand auntie (this was how we called her) gave a token amount, just like the ang bao one gave to the cleaner of their area during CNY long long time ago.

No complaint lah, she came we happy liao.  

 

Don't think anyone is expecting old auntie or uncle to give a big angbao. A token amount is a blessing.  

Anyway, wedding celebration has become such a money churner for hotels and high end restaurants, everyone is paying for it, the couple, their family and invited guests.  At good hotels, a table cost $3-4k, likely to lose money for host. 

 

[Jamesc]

That's the spirit.

Invite people they come is happy already.

They give how much is immaterial  

We invite people is share our happiness.

They come is grace us with their presence. 

Not make money from people. 

On 11/8/2025 at 5:56 PM, Ahwhye said:

I have a grand auntie (this was how we called her) gave a token amount, just like the ang bao one gave to the cleaner of their area during CNY long long time ago.

No complaint lah, she came we happy liao.  

 

 

[mersaylee]

On 11/8/2025 at 6:11 PM, Jamesc said:

That's the spirit.

Invite people they come is happy already.

They give how much is immaterial  

We invite people is share our happiness.

They come is grace us with their presence. 

Not make money from people. 

 

That's why we have to make the occasion memorable for them...it's the presence and not present that counts...😁

[Jamesc]

I really cannot stand people that never see people for a long time and only invite them for wedding. 

Its like their ang pow they happy to see.

Not the person. 

[Jamesc]

I can only speak from my own experience. 

My MIL invited all the people that didn't like to see her.

But they very happy to see her daughter. 

And they very interested to see the guy that made her pregnant. 

Lucky I am not the shy type.

Unfortunately it wasn't obvious. 

If very obvious I would have told everyone.

Give bigger ang pow hor. 

Soon will be 3 mouths to feed not only just 2.

Tell the truth no need to be shy right?

If life gives you lemons make lemonade.