Adoption

[Ebert]

Anybody here is adopted?

How is it like to be adopted?

Do you want to know who your real parents are?

If you know who your real parents are, are you tempted to live with your real parents?

Would you love your adopted parents less if you found that you were adopted?

 

Thanks

[Youaredie]

I think the issue of adoption is quite taboo in Singapore. To the extent that there may be some people who may not reveal themselves as adopted, or opting for adoption. I know a few couples who are unable to bear children but will not consider the option of adopting. Think it has to do with the asian mentality of strong family roots, bringing someone in may "disrupt" the family link.

 

 

[Thaiyotakamli]

Anybody here is adopted?

How is it like to be adopted?

Do you want to know who your real parents are?

If you know who your real parents are, are you tempted to live with your real parents?

Would you love your adopted parents less if you found that you were adopted?

 

Thanks

i adopt u come

[Hasegawa]

I appreciate the comedy time out but I think u overstep the line here..... :wub:

 

i adopt u come

 

[Ender]

i adopt u come

 

Only sugar-mummy needs to apply..

[Ysc3]

i am not adopted (as far as my BC and blood type shows), but in response to your questions, my answer will be a 98% "NO".

 

the balance 2% is for very valid reason ... but that is depends on the situation whereby the child is given up for adoption or worst, "thrown away".

 

if one can't afford to maintain a family, then dun "f" around.

 

I dun even like to mingle with those ppl who dun want to take care of their kids after birth.

[Vroomtattat]

i am not adopted (as far as my BC and blood type shows), but in response to your questions, my answer will be a 98% "NO".

 

the balance 2% is for very valid reason ... but that is depends on the situation whereby the child is given up for adoption or worst, "thrown away".

 

if one can't afford to maintain a family, then dun "f" around.

 

I dun even like to mingle with those ppl who dun want to take care of their kids after birth.

 

Same thoughts here bro. I have a female colleague who always label her young child "fan si" and accordingly to her, she dumps her at her in-law's and will only pick her up only on Sundays.

 

MAD! :angry:

 

See those kids at orphanage, feel like adopting one but CO not agreeable . . . . . haiz!

[Ysc3]

Same thoughts here bro. I have a female colleague who always label her young child "fan si" and accordingly to her, she dumps her at her in-law's and will only pick her up only on Sundays.

 

MAD! :angry:

 

See those kids at orphanage, feel like adopting one but CO not agreeable . . . . . haiz!

 

real life 10 yr old : a father who stays with his gf and her kid and visits his own son once a week.

the mother left the family when the kid was less than 1 year old.

 

i also gave thots abt adopting ... but i dun thk my parents wud agree also .... but if given a choice, i wud prefer to have a girl .... at least most probably i will need to take care of her for abt 20+ years and then some guy will be able to take care of her for the rest of her life....just need someone to collect my ashes when i go.

 

but govt dun allow single men to adopt baby girls, which generally is a good measure to prevent possible abuse.

[Ebert]

thank you all for your thoughts

 

is forming a "complete"family important nowadays

[Adrianli]

Anybody here is adopted?

 

I am adopted, together with my twin brother. Yes, both of us are adopted together by my single mum.

 

How is it like to be adopted?

 

I feel normal. Being fed n schooled like any normal kid growing up in the 80's by a single parent.

 

Do you want to know who your real parents are?

 

No.

 

If you know who your real parents are, are you tempted to live with your real parents?

 

No.

 

Would you love your adopted parents less if you found that you were adopted?

 

No.

[Genie47]

I have a friend who just adopted a son.

 

They are adjusting to life now. Their own son welcomes the new brother. They say goodnight to each other like The Waltons every night.

 

It could not be anymore normal.

 

Problem is, majority Asian perceptions towards adoption are abnormal.

[Kelvingoh45]

Who wants to adopt me?

[Good-Carbuyer]

Anybody here is adopted?

How is it like to be adopted?

Do you want to know who your real parents are?

If you know who your real parents are, are you tempted to live with your real parents?

Would you love your adopted parents less if you found that you were adopted?

 

Thanks

So happen I am among those who baby-sit my youngest niece since she was a baby. No adoption

She loved me like her dad even she is mid-twenty now. In her growing years, she confide with me what she would not mention to her parents who also loved her (she knew her parents will lectured her for some of her daring adventures, but not her loving ever forgiving uncle).

My dad had adopted one of my cousin as my uncle was having financial difficulties. She had the same distinct taste bud for coffee as her other siblings all the time (none of us drink coffee). No, she would not want to live with her real parents (more love from adopted parents) and she loved my parents more than her reaL parents (perhaps she maintain a sense of insecurity her whole life knowing she is an adopted child)

Edited October 18, 2010 by Good-Carbuyer

[Mockngbrd]

i adopted 2 wowos... both great companions... counted?

[Good-Carbuyer]

i adopt u come

Can know your budget? Terms and conditions?

[Good-Carbuyer]

Only sugar-mummy needs to apply..

You professional gigolo? Psst... you must leave your mobile numbers allover for business...

[Good-Carbuyer]

real life 10 yr old : a father who stays with his gf and her kid and visits his own son once a week.

the mother left the family when the kid was less than 1 year old.

 

i also gave thots abt adopting ... but i dun thk my parents wud agree also .... but if given a choice, i wud prefer to have a girl .... at least most probably i will need to take care of her for abt 20+ years and then some guy will be able to take care of her for the rest of her life....just need someone to collect my ashes when i go.

 

but govt dun allow single men to adopt baby girls, which generally is a good measure to prevent possible abuse.

Somehow, many/most babies and kids (strangers) obviously cheered up upon sight of me. Some smiled, some stretched out hand for a handshake, or just touch their 'idol'?

I never like the idea of adoption somehow, could be a little too demoralised that is another orphan?

[Good-Carbuyer]

thank you all for your thoughts

 

is forming a "complete"family important nowadays

I wish more local people think the same. Young man told me his is agreement with his girlfriend not to have a family when they get married. I enquired with him why trouble themselves to get married if they do not wish to have a family. They never married to what I know

Edited October 18, 2010 by Good-Carbuyer