Time spent with family

[Ktglfc]

keep it up, house rules need to be uphold till at least 10-12 yrs old until it become a norm to them where they will tell you if you didn't follow.

 

Agreed ... have to encourage them abt the "Dos" and "Donts" ... and the reasons behind these

 

Hopefully by the time they become teenagers, they will still appreciate the rules ...

[Victor68]

I feel it is not just the amount of time but how you spent whatever time you have with your children.

 

If your work requires you to be away more often, then you need to schedule time when you are off or on leave for them. But not just with them but what you wish to achieve. Many took time to sit through exam peiod. Others to bring them for enrichment. So what is your priority and what you wish to achieved?

 

Children are like a piece of white paper. You draw red and he will be red. Future changes will still leave marks of red no matter how.

 

Did we have children to ensure they grow up to get rich so that they will continue to work very hard so that their Children are rich? but all the while have they ever really appreciate a balance lifestyle? Maybe to some that is an achievement.

[Still2016]

Paiseh, sorri, don't mean to be nosy but looking at your schedule, very tight and busy, must be very tired end of the day, where got time to piak piak to consider No. 2.

 

 

 

my wife and i juggle hse cleaning, cooking, taking care of my first born on own. no maids. dinner once a week go in laws place after work.

 

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i put my girl to cc in mornings before go to work. fetch her and missus after i off at 5.30

 

dinner, bonding, bathing the little one. we do some reading, playing then go sleep ard 9+..

 

should be done by 10pm or so..

 

then adults do own relaxation...

 

its quite repetative but my family bonds are strong..

 

 

 

 

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visit in-laws a week 1/ 2 x..

 

own parents every fortnight..

 

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not too bad i guess..

 

[Alfc]

36hrs quite Ok for me. If the time spent includes preparing them for school. Cuz I spend about 1hr a day in the morning preparing breakfast with my wife and kids, then we eat and prepare them for school. At night I spend 1hr with my children coaching them on their homework and piano. After that another 1hr talking and playing with them before bed. So thats around 3hrs a day.

Weekends are family days so usually wake up at 7am, go for breakfast and we'll go for outings together till about 4pm, rest then go for dinner plus play/interact with my kids till their bed time. Weekends easily 12hrs with them a day. 

 

Now that my kids are young, I try to do everything with them as a family. I don't plan outings over the weekend that only me and my wife can enjoy. This way, we get to spend more time as a family. Although, me and my wife do miss going out together as a couple. But we are still young and we know when our kids become teenagers, we will have alot of time as a couple cuz our kids are likely to want to have time for themselves also.

I agree with your approach. Don't just blame it on working hours. Nowadays, the pursue of material well being and perceived academic achievements for children have put a huge compromise in family time. Everything is out-sourced from housework, day school, night tuition, weekend enrichment and more. Where do one expect to spend time with children? In the car when you are ferrying them around these activities?

 

Unless you are talking about barely making ends meet, I believe there is a choice. Ultimately, one has to decide how one want to spend this particular phase of your life - maximize working to earn money to pay for that luxury car or home, or take a compromised step back to spend more time with kids/family. At old age when you have been there done that, it is always easy to say "should have done this and that" but in life phases, there is only one single chance of how you choose to live it. There is no "Zao Zi Dao....".

[Kusje]

I spend about 50 hours with my family every week for now....

 

 

5 hours per day during weekdays. Get home 7 pm (this current job quite slack but rots my brain), play with my daughter till 12 midnight. She is a vampire that doesn't sleep.

 

 

12 hours per day on weekends. Effectively, I have no hobbies anymore.

[Nzy]

I spend about 50 hours with my family every week for now....

 

 

5 hours per day during weekdays. Get home 7 pm (this current job quite slack but rots my brain), play with my daughter till 12 midnight. She is a vampire that doesn't sleep.

 

 

12 hours per day on weekends. Effectively, I have no hobbies anymore.

 

Share hobbies lo. Kids mainly influenced by parents anyway. I play the piano as a hobby, so my kids play also. I play RC cars/planes and my 2 sons will join in. My daughter still young so don't know which of my hobbies she'll take up.

[Galantspeedz]

OK.... Thanks ..

 

Can add one more : >50

 

I spend about 80hrs with my family weekly ...

 

Mon ~ Fri = 6hrs (30hrs)

 

Weekends = 48hrs

 

Total 78hrs.

You wish they spend 78hrs with you is it?

I feel it is not just the amount of time but how you spent whatever time you have with your children.

 

If your work requires you to be away more often, then you need to schedule time when you are off or on leave for them. But not just with them but what you wish to achieve. Many took time to sit through exam peiod. Others to bring them for enrichment. So what is your priority and what you wish to achieved?

 

Children are like a piece of white paper. You draw red and he will be red. Future changes will still leave marks of red no matter how.

 

Did we have children to ensure they grow up to get rich so that they will continue to work very hard so that their Children are rich? but all the while have they ever really appreciate a balance lifestyle? Maybe to some that is an achievement.

Easier to have a balanced lifestyle when you rich..

[Nzy]

You wish they spend 78hrs with you is it?

 

Easier to have a balanced lifestyle when you rich..

 

Depends on what you think is rich. If talking in monetary terms I am considered quite poor, but not impossible for me to have a balanced lifestyle. I was still studying when i had 2 kids and working full time. Its whether the parents want or not la.

[Gitanic]

R quality X [ j ] hrs > Q quantity X [ j ] hrs.

 

S quality X [ j ] hrs = Q quantity X [ j ] hrs.

 

R /= S.

 

 

got it? 

[Galantspeedz]

Depends on what you think is rich. If talking in monetary terms I am considered quite poor, but not impossible for me to have a balanced lifestyle. I was still studying when i had 2 kids and working full time. Its whether the parents want or not la.

Who said impossible?

[Nzy]

Who said impossible?

 

Wrong choice of words. Not thinking properly. I meant not that difficult. Just got to make it a priority. Unless you are talking about the kind on social welfare kind of poor la. That kind then maybe abit difficult to have balance but still doable.

[Mrmilktooth]

Paiseh, sorri, don't mean to be nosy but looking at your schedule, very tight and busy, must be very tired end of the day, where got time to piak piak to consider No. 2.

 

No la. I also summaries it la. Haha

 

Sometimes throw kid at inlaws for e weekend so got romantic or adult time lol.

 

In fact expecting #2 in another 3mths lol.

 

Wanted another for companion for children. And quite easy to "tio " lol

You wish they spend 78hrs with you is it?

 

Easier to have a balanced lifestyle when you rich..

Really is to evaluate what u n spouse want.

 

And sure got some sacrifice. But sure the rich have it easier.

 

Me n spouse is consider lower income grp mind u lol

[Still2016]

About school pressure. Beware.

[Still2016]

No la. I also summaries it la. Haha

 

Sometimes throw kid at inlaws for e weekend so got romantic or adult time lol.

 

In fact expecting #2 in another 3mths lol.

 

Wanted another for companion for children. And quite easy to "tio " lol

Really is to evaluate what u n spouse want.

 

And sure got some sacrifice. But sure the rich have it easier.

 

Me n spouse is consider lower income grp mind u lol

 

Did I ever warn you about recycling condoms and did you read instructions stating single use on?

 

Congratulations. Happy for you, bro.

[Tigershark1976]

3 hrs a day is barely doable for someone who works a 9-5 job. How can...

 

Anyway adults shouldn't be keeping kids up just to keep themselves company.

Kids should ideally be asleep at most latest by 9+

They need their beauty sleep.

 

yeah.... for those who work, morning  spend with kids for at most 30mins before the children take school bus to school. After work reached home by 8pm+, another 1.5 hrs cause kids need to go to bed by 10am. 2 hrs is average for weekdays. For weekend, kids go for music class, tuition, swiming class & other activities, the most spend with them another 6 hrs per day. Total 1 week less than 30hrs.

[Silver_blade]

Yup, my family doesn't have the TV watching habit as well. The cable tv subscription is wasted... just to get the broadband internet

Same here. We do not watch TV. I get to spend around 2-3 hrs on weekdays with my kids even tho they sleep early at 7:30pm-8pm. On weekends, we will usually spend 24hrs for both sat and sun, cos they do not have any extra classes.

[Silver_blade]

I will said that this is almost impossible with our education system...

Still do-able with kids in primary school P1-P5. Not sure about those in P-6. Mine go to bed by 7:30pm-8pm.

[Tigershark1976]

About school pressure. Beware.

 

[furious]

 

Hope my kids wont do this to me... God bless me....