Girlfriend/partner make u pay for almost everything when out

[Sabian]

i noe, you just want to assess her from her action, whether she is a good girl, and the right girl for you, after all. And that is the purpose of your thread, to seek others opinion. I think so. Or maybe i have not dated enough.

 

true, battyman never had a great social life...

 

[Yeshe]

She never offer to pay even once. So i got no chance even to say " never mind next time u pay". Yes i bought her gifts like clothes, flowers etc. even paid for holiday trip.

 

if so, i strongly recommend, dump her. did she even show any love care or concern in any form to u?

 

have u watched Stardust? in short, what she did to show her love for u?

[Yeshe]

Hehe ok ok bro...me take back my word. I say a word in fairness lah. The gf is 30+ liao....and I know girls who are 30+ don't anyhow show their bf to their parents. But she did. She claimed to be tight on money but she doesn't ask him for financial help. And like the TS said, she is richer than he is. Maybe for her it's very simple...she could be thinking..."I am richer than you...but I dont expect you to be earning as much as me....it's alright if you are earning lesser...but at the minimal you should play the 'providers' role and pay for meals during dates." fair enough bo?

 

on the contrary, i feel that a 30+ yo lady who is financially stable will NEVER ask the BF to pay all the time.

[Sabian]

This is like beginning to feel like a merry go round. Round and round the same thing.

 

Like feeding a troll

[Sabian]

if so, i strongly recommend, dump her. did she even show any love care or concern in any form to u?

 

have u watched Stardust? in short, what she did to show her love for u?

 

 

mmmm...stardust, one of my fav movies.

loved de niro's performance in that one.

[Tunge]

It is not abt the amt. but the principle, the mentality. we eat in restuarants mainly. sometimes cafes & hawker centres. i just want to get her mentality right. Newspaper cost only 80cts. Not the amt. the pt is every opportunity there is to make u santa claus. whether right or wrong.

 

 

so bro does she buy u gifts for say christmas, valentine's day, birthdays? or she just expects to recieve gifts from u and give nothing in return....

 

 

her mentality of expecting bf to pay for everything is a very childish type of thinking, i'd expect that if i was dating a school girl... n what more she is loaded, has money to buy property and earn more than u... that's makes it even harder to understand. she just seems like a selfish and not to mention greedy person from what u describe. if u think there's something wrong w here character, the alarms r sounding. ok lah maybe don't dump here immediately but u sure need to talk to her and see what reason/excuse she gives

[Sabian]

on the contrary, i feel that a 30+ yo lady who is financially stable will NEVER ask the BF to pay all the time.

 

[Lotus4712]

She never once volunteer to pay. So can i act blur and dont pay when the bill come?

 

cannot, right? Tell her she shld pay? how to tell? this ting muz be voluntary or automatic.

[Thargor]

on the contrary, i feel that a 30+ yo lady who is financially stable will NEVER ask the BF to pay all the time.

 

Hhehe maybe I am only speaking from personally experience when I was dating 30+ yr old ladies...till I met my wife when she was in her late 20s.

 

For such ladies...its more like"time is running out for me...I need to know you are a good provider so that I don't have to waste my time on you"

[Hermitage]

How can a thread like this reach 8 pages in a single day?!?! It's as simple as hell isn't it, forget about her already lah!! Why don't you tell her next time that you overspent on her already and thus have NO more money to pay, show her the empty wallet and see how she reacts?? If she walks away without a word and you never hear from her again, good riddance to bad rubbish I say!

[Sabian]

so bro does she buy u gifts for say christmas, valentine's day, birthdays? or she just expects to recieve gifts from u and give nothing in return....

 

TS said liao, ... is not in her vocabulary.

 

[Lotus4712]

Yes beginning she buy me shirts.

[Berncsp76]

I thk TS is the guy in disguise that kena whacked on the groin by the lady with the lexus la...hehe

[The_Bear]

If you are really serious about the relationship, you shld sit down and tok to her about it. Preferably after piak piak session. Tell her nicely tat u notice tat u r paying all the time and she avoids paying. ask her if she has any problem etc etc. then piak her again...

[Freestylers09]

test her v easy..just tell her u no $ due to whatever reason..see will she stand by u anot..if not, good to see the person earlier than later

[Lotus4712]

Im not tat guy, sorry. seen the video though.

[Yeshe]

Yes beginning she buy me shirts.

 

after that? is that the only thing she does that make u feel loved?? did she do anything out of the way to make u feel u are so special?

[Freestylers09]

Hhehe maybe I am only speaking from personally experience when I was dating 30+ yr old ladies...till I met my wife when she was in her late 20s.

 

For such ladies...its more like"time is running out for me...I need to know you are a good provider so that I don't have to waste my time on you"

 

 

wah like tat in another words means bo fish,prawn also can?wishing its a lobster after marriage?