Getting a foreign wife

[Ct3833]

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OK. So I am back in Singapore. Total expenses let's say is about 3 million rupiah which covers transportation to and from airport plus everything else except the airfare.

 

As you can see the receipt it's quite cheap for ten over days of accommodation food and laundry.

 

So it's about $300 for ten days? And if I scrimp a bit maybe with a few hundred more I can live there permanently? :) @throttle2 saw your post in my investment thread. Ultimate goal is to have sufficient dividends to live in a village. Then I can quit my job/take part time job if necessary.

 

What have I learned from this trip?

 

Getting a village wife is not so straightforward. I did talk to an elder there. I am not so much as to bring the girl out of her world into my world but more of i want to go out of my world into her's - and that is not so straightforward. As mentioned above, I hope to go into her world as opposed to the other way round.

 

I can easily earn ten times their salary BUT it does not necessarily follow that I am ten times as happy. Money is not everything in the village, at least not for the girl that matters. I don't have a TV there. But I spend more time chatting and just doing simple activities like peeling onions. I don't think I lost anything as a result.

 

I debated with an elder. Heaven in the village is fiction. My visit is only a week or so. Stay longer and you will find that even in the village there are politics. I countered that I was there on 2007 & 2019. Different people but same culture. If there had been politics the culture should have changed over the decade... The elder countered that observations as Andre visitor is different from people actually working. Cos my interactions tend to be more leisurely as opposed to stressful situations. Point taken

But she acknowledged the point that culture did not change much in over a decade also show a point.

 

So yeah. I learned a lot in this trip. Do I still hope to get a village wife? I don't know. There are still other villages I will plan to visit but this is THE village cos I lived here before for two weeks and it's a Christian area.

 

And maybe just one day I will retire there or move there.

 

So who knows? Maybe I will never get a village wife after all - but it's not for lack of trying. Or maybe I will one day.

 

Keep this thread alive till then

 

Before i end, I wanna share something someone there shared with me.

 

'Once you drink the water from serukam (the name of the place), you will always want to go back'

 

There might actually be truth to that.

Thanks Philip for sharing something that many of us do not get to experience in our daily routines, letting alone the interesting and out of ordinary desire that very few would have even thought of.

If you build a wooden house there, you would cut your daily expense drastically. So you really do not need much money to settle there.

By the way, so how or where do they generate income or they are self sufficient in the village?

Looks like you are quite determined in persuing a village wife, what are the few key criteria before you would say yes ? The girl ? The religion? The condition of the village? The race? Or other considerations ?

You can choose not to answer the questions though, asking out of my curiosity(kay poh).

I wish you success in finding your desire in a best outcome.

Edited July 23, 2019 by Ct3833

[Jman888]

where is the wife? 

[Philipkee]

Thanks Philip for sharing something that many of us do not get to experience in our daily routines, letting alone the interesting and out of ordinary desire that very few have even thought of.

If you build a wooden house there, you would cut your daily expense drastically. So you really do not need much money to settle there.

By the way, so how or where do they generate income or they are self sufficient in the village?

Looks like you are quite determined in persuing a village wife, what are the few key criteria before you would say yes ? The girl ? The religion? The condition of the village? The race? Or other considerations ?

You can choose not to answer the questions though, asking out of my curiosity(kay poh).

I wish you success in finding your desire in a best outcome.

Get difficult question out of way first. Definitely a girl and definitely Christian. Village girl maybe or maybe not. After coming here I realise it's not so straightforward unless you plan to buy but that's another issuealtogether.

 

Are they self sufficient? Not really. They do make trips to nearby town (singkawang) for some shopping for groceries. It's about 50km away but going by traffic and condition of road it's a whole day trip back and forth so grocery shoppings are planned. Really planned because hospital car must be booked and driver decided. Driver is one of the staff who is also going shopping BUT because he signs out the car he must be OK to drive the entire way to and fro cos any accident is his sole responsibility - apparently no such thing as insurance for cars. I didn't ask how they would repair the cars in the village.

 

There are small provision shops around so it's not that bad. How the provision shops actually get supplies I don't know cos they are outside the mission hospital itself - if you haven't noticed when I say village I am generally referring to the hospital/compound and people staying within as supposed to the entire region.

 

Money wise it's from the local patients and donations from Christians around the world plus some govt funding for very specific purposes.

 

One thing never changed. It's like the work and life is merged in the village. I guess because the doctors live next to the hospital it's like taken for granted they will make rounds even if they are off - I can't even imagine going to dept on off day just to check if everything is all right.

 

Different world there.

[RogerNg_185295]

Good question. After 46 pages, still big ?

where is the wife? 

 

[Watwheels]

‘The moon brides in foreign countries are particularly round easy and bright good’

[Philipkee]

Good question. After 46 pages, still big ?

Maybe at the last post of this thread, whenever that may be.

[Staff69]

i got a candidate , you keen, village woman, simple minded, sincere , except

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

likes to eat pen is 

 

 

https://www.facebook.com/lilpooh.frfr.5/videos/188615098802113/

 

 

Edited July 23, 2019 by Staff69

[Playtime]

i got a candidate , you keen, village woman, simple minded, sincere , except

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

likes to eat pen is 

 

 

https://www.facebook.com/lilpooh.frfr.5/videos/188615098802113/

 

 

thats a .... very different variation of the usual theme.....

[RogerNg_185295]

Maybe at the last post of this thread, whenever that may be.

Alright. So your goal to get a foreign wife is successful or not?

[Inlinefour]

actually village girl or farmer daughter presentable too

[Sosaria]

actually village girl or farmer daughter presentable too ððð

This one is farmer daughter that never work under the sun. Maybe night-time farming or chicken farm?

 

I once met a very fair one who told me she works as caddy ... night golf. Jokes aside, turns out they wear long sleeves, long pants covering up so they can remain fair while ... err ... standby holding clubs and handling balls, all under the sun.

[Inlinefour]

This one is farmer daughter that never work under the sun. Maybe night-time farming or chicken farm?

 

I once met a very fair one who told me she works as caddy ... night golf. Jokes aside, turns out they wear long sleeves, long pants covering up so they can remain fair while ... err ... standby holding clubs and handling balls, all under the sun.

blisters on palm can tell

[Wt_know]

welcome back ... when is the ROM?

 

20190722_232013.jpg
OK. So I am back in Singapore. Total expenses let's say is about 3 million rupiah which covers transportation to and from airport plus everything else except the airfare.

'Once you drink the water from serukam (the name of the place), you will always want to go back'

 

[Philipkee]

All right.  

Here comes part 2 or whatever.  Going to an island in Indonesia to attend the wedding of one doctor I met in kalimantan.

I used to joke when I get married I will just send GPS coordinates to my guests.  Well, in a way, I was given an address in an island east of borneo for a wedding and here I am, on the way.

Maybe wont find anyone here as it's a wedding but it's still related to the wedding and who knows.

There should be a part 3 when I go myanmar next year.  Heheh.

[Wt_know]

bro, you need to volunteer to ukraine and slovakia. success rate is not high but 99% only ... lol

[Throttle2]

On 7/22/2019 at 11:45 PM, Philipkee said:

OK. So I am back in Singapore. Total expenses let's say is about 3 million rupiah which covers transportation to and from airport plus everything else except the airfare.

 

As you can see the receipt it's quite cheap for ten over days of accommodation food and laundry.

 

So it's about $300 for ten days? And if I scrimp a bit maybe with a few hundred more I can live there permanently? 🙂 @throttle2 saw your post in my investment thread. Ultimate goal is to have sufficient dividends to live in a village. Then I can quit my job/take part time job if necessary.

 

What have I learned from this trip?

 

Getting a village wife is not so straightforward. I did talk to an elder there. I am not so much as to bring the girl out of her world into my world but more of i want to go out of my world into her's - and that is not so straightforward. As mentioned above, I hope to go into her world as opposed to the other way round.

 

I can easily earn ten times their salary BUT it does not necessarily follow that I am ten times as happy. Money is not everything in the village, at least not for the girl that matters. I don't have a TV there. But I spend more time chatting and just doing simple activities like peeling onions. I don't think I lost anything as a result.

 

I debated with an elder. Heaven in the village is fiction. My visit is only a week or so. Stay longer and you will find that even in the village there are politics. I countered that I was there on 2007 & 2019. Different people but same culture. If there had been politics the culture should have changed over the decade... The elder countered that observations as Andre visitor is different from people actually working. Cos my interactions tend to be more leisurely as opposed to stressful situations. Point taken

But she acknowledged the point that culture did not change much in over a decade also show a point.

 

So yeah. I learned a lot in this trip. Do I still hope to get a village wife? I don't know. There are still other villages I will plan to visit but this is THE village cos I lived here before for two weeks and it's a Christian area.

 

And maybe just one day I will retire there or move there.

 

So who knows? Maybe I will never get a village wife after all - but it's not for lack of trying. Or maybe I will one day.

 

Keep this thread alive till then

 

Before i end, I wanna share something someone there shared with me.

 

'Once you drink the water from serukam (the name of the place), you will always want to go back'

 

There might actually be truth to that.

Wah how come i go to another village and one night already 3mil rupiah?  
😩😩

[Thaiyotakamli]

2 hours ago, Throttle2 said:

Wah how come i go to another village and one night already 3mil rupiah?  
😩😩

U go to high SES village

[Shibadog]

On ‎7‎/‎16‎/‎2019 at 7:03 PM, Philipkee said:

Went hiking today. Decided to visit the trails and saw the rubber trees. I was alone and I actually got lost for a while cos after walking inside I couldn't find the trail back to the main road. Total time lost was only a few minutes at most but yeah I can imagine if it was night or injury the panic would be real. Of cos worst case I would have used Google map (there was a satellite dish nearby so Internet access is available even where I was, provided I did not do something foolish like go even deeper inside..)

 

I stayed calm and listened for sounds of passing cars. Could eventually see the road but still cannot find the trail back. So eventually did like army style and just bashed through and cleared obstacles to the road.

 

just came across this thread (when I saw one recent post regarding Indo)

Kalimantan Barat is indeed an interesting place, for various reasons; I know indo guys who keep 2nd wives there.. usually it's viewed as a commercial transaction by the families, and goes thru a middleman.

 

more specific to this post, if you enjoy going off the beaten path, do consider getting a Protrek watch (or similar) with a built-in compass. I use one as a back up, as well as a proper magnetic compass when I go to remote ares for greenfield projects. In those early days, no smart phone no google map, only hv satellite/air photo and a garmin GPS for initial ground survey.

Google maps (offline) is an option now but sometimes all one needs is a bearing to find your way back to a trail/track.

u may also wish to consider a handheld satellite phone with prepaid credit. They're relatively cheap now. If you'll travelling to such places for work, your employer may provide one for emergency use. I've had to use it quite often in areas without 2G/3G, and was initially surprised that the signal quality is weak, unless hooked up to an auxiliary antenna (usually on the outside of a building or vehicle.) Sometimes we have to go to the top of hills to get a usable signal. But this will vary with the location/terrain.

 

You may recall the recent case of Singaporean hikers getting lost on a hill in Johor and it took a few days for rescuers to locate them. This could hv been easily prevented and/or mitigated.